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I wish I was a more decisive, braver person. I am stuck trying to decide if I want to try and teach abroad or get a job in the US. :(

Abroad might be the best answer as long as Trump is in charge.

Whenever I have been brave and taken a step out of my comfort zone to do something I wanted to do, I have never regretted it. Regardless of how hard it was or how it turned out.

On the other hand, every time I have taken the safe option I have ALWAYS regretted it. Without exception.

To be fair, most things are outside of my comfort zone. That is why I didn't learn to drive until the age of 28. :/

If you go abroad I can 100% say that you will not regret it. You will learn a huge amount about yourself and the world.

That said, if you decide to stay in the US fully commit to it. Don't do it because of negative reasons i.e. because you're afraid of the uncertainty leaving brings. Do it because staying allows you opportunities to align yourself with your true values and goals.

I have had opportunities and situations in life when it would have made sense for me to go abroad for a year or two. But I decided to stay. Why? Because the things I truly wanted in life (stability, domestic comfort and closeness with family and friends) were more realistically achieved by staying. having made the decision to stay, I double-downed on it and worked towards my goals - worked on myself physically, emotionally and mentally, put myself out there in dating situations, worked on getting a stable career, put effort into having a more positive relationship with my family, etc etc. And now, a few years later and building a life with a wonderful partner, I don't regret not traveling when I was younger because I knew it would have felt almost like I was putting my life on hold, and I didn't want to waste anymore time.

TL;DR: People never regret a choice made for positive reasons. Work out what you truly want in life, and work towards it - once you do that, the choice about going overseas or not will become much easier.

That said, if you decide to stay in the US fully commit to it.

This is the problem I am having. I don't know if I really want to teach abroad or if I just think I want to because I am depressed from job hunting in the US. I vaguely like the idea of visiting another country, but I hate the idea of being away from my family.

Edited 2017-07-28 02:44 (UTC)

Is it possible to broaden your job search within the US? Being away just far away enough from your life at the moment might help you get some perspective on both your career and what you want to do.

On that note, why do you want to go overseas? What problem do you see it solving in your life?

I think I'd be able to save money depending on where I teach. But even when I was working the shit job I hated I was able to save money (I am very frugal).

I want to visit other countries but I've always viewed visiting other countries in context of visiting them with my sister. If there is such a thing as platonic soulmates, my sister is mine. :P

I also worry that I am watching to teach abroad to hold off on having to worry about job/car/apartment hunting. It has got me fairly depressed and stressed.

It sounds like what might help you is to put your immediate worries and stressors out of your mind, and start thinking about what you want in your life. Where would you like to see yourself in 5 years? in 10 years? 20? What do you want to have achieved at the end of your life?

Sometimes your goals might not be career related but might need money. So you might need to think about jobs - does your job pay enough? if it does, could you continue to work in it just for the money, or is it just that shit? In those situations, what you might need to concentrate on is a career change.

If you suspect it isn't that bad, it just where you are atm, then you need to think about a job change. When you think about where you will look for another job, keep in mind your long term goals - even if you picture yourself living near your family for most of your life, do you actually need to be live near them for the next year or so? If yes, why? Are they really compelling reasons? (Compelling for me = partner who can't travel with me, responsibilities I couldn't leave, health reasons why I can't leave, opportunities where I am that I know are coming up and that I have a chance for that I don't want to miss).

If you need a job change in order to work out whether teaching is for you, want to save money, and don't need to live near your sisters RIGHT NOW, then definitely start looking for jobs in different areas or abroad.

Go through the above process not thinking about your anxieties and make the RIGHT CHOICE. Then, and only then, start doing your research so incredibly thoroughly that there's hardly any room for your anxiety to live. And most of all, once you make your decision, COMMIT, and only change it if that change corresponds with a future life goal in a meaningful way.

Right now I am currently unemployed from a warehouse job that I hated so whatever I do it will be a life change. Looks like I have a lot to think about.

Thank you for this advice, you have no idea what it means to me. It is just really nice to be able to talk to anyone about what is going on in my life.

No worries - you're always so lovely to everyone here that I'm glad I could give back.

Good luck with everything! I know that whatever you choose to do it's going to bring good things into your life - you just have to make the choice to do it :)

You will never regret what you try, only what you don't try!

Ok in all seriousness -- as somebody with both good and bad experiences that front, I feel compelled to encourage you on taking a chance. At worst, you will find yourself exactly like you were at the start. At best..., I can't even describe it, but I am CONVINCED it will boost your confidence and savings to boot.

Then again, I also don't know any specifics about your situation. Except you did mention you wanted to teach and probably... if you are teaching abroad, you will most probably at least meet other people who are in the same situation.

I don't really like teaching all that much. But that could be because I taught in Oklahoma.

Out of curiosity, what do you want to teach abroad? Is it the same thing you taught in Oklahoma?

English is easiest. To teach English abroad you literally only need a Bachelor's. As an education major I'd sort of be overqualified. I am certified to teach Special Education but that isn't in most other schools.

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