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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-07-27 07:01 pm

[ SECRET POST #3858 ]


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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Let it all out.
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[personal profile] philstar22 2017-07-27 11:28 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm tired. So tired. I skipped dinner because I wanted to go right to bed. But now my brain is wired. My body is exhausted, but my brain won't shut up.

Also, the bar chairs sucked as usual, and now my back is spasming.

I really want to take tomorrow off, but we're eating dinner at someone's house, so I have to be social and not just sleep and drink.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
Like fucking clockwork, I've been babysitting my niece and nephew and now I'm sick. Any time I spend more than a day near them, I always get sick. Ugh!

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:21 am (UTC)(link)
Have you tried Airborne? I swear by that stuff when I know I'm gonna be around lots of germs.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:39 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm a bit miffed about an art commission. A friend and I commissioned a picture of some OCs and it was fairly expensive. It's by an artist we really like and whose style fits the characters really well.
So we were really happy when they opened what they called "emergency commissions", apparently for health reasons.

Now this artist seems to have a few demons of their own but they didn't have a history of not delivering the commissions they took. And we are absolutely prepared to wait a while, especially since they said beforehand it might take some time. The artist is pretty popular so we are not the only people by far who got a commission spot, so that's another reason why we don't want to be impatient.

Thing is, we also watch the artist's twitter. And while al ost all of their tweets are in Russian and only readable for us via bad Google translate, they also regularly post pictures. So we've seen the money from the commissions being invested already (bought a new laptop, keeps going shopping) and tons of selfies during various outings. Some health mentions sprinkled through it as well. But not a single word about the commissions. And it's not been that long (a bit over a month I guess?) but I really would appreciate at least one tiny comment on the matter.

The main reason is that I've been burned by undelivered commissions before and it took some convincing myself to risk it, and with a fairly big sum for broke little me as well. And I'd just like to have the feeling that I won't regret it.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:40 am (UTC)(link)
Ugh shit like this pisses me off so much. Go ahead and ask them when they plan on GIVING YOU WHAT YOU PAID THEM FOR. They've obviously got time to shop for goodies with YOUR MONEY. Fuck people like that honestly, they give everyone else trying to make a living via commission work a bad name.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:19 am (UTC)(link)
Definitely send them a message about it, sometimes artists get distracted and if there's no particular due date they may not think you are mad about the wait. Often a reminder message will be enough to either get them off their butt and finish the piece or they may consider giving a refund (I wouldn't request one yet, give them at least one chance to get it together especially if health is an issue.)

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 02:31 am (UTC)(link)
My sympathies. Stuff like this is why I'm so reluctant to commission art, even from reputable artists.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 05:30 am (UTC)(link)
Maybe they don't want to mention comission related things on their public twitter because they don't want to put pressure on themselves, and not what they think their followers would like to see. If you are still nervous I agree with the above comments that you should DM them, you paid for it so it's your right to know.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)
No one comments on my entries anymore and I have no idea WTF I'm doing wrong.

In before "LJ is dead,Jim" - I know. But people on my friends list are active.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:01 am (UTC)(link)
My comments have been sluggish too. I think people are just busier in the summer.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:22 am (UTC)(link)
Do you whine on your LJ? I for one filter whiners right the fuck out.
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[personal profile] kaijinscendre 2017-07-27 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I wish I was a more decisive, braver person. I am stuck trying to decide if I want to try and teach abroad or get a job in the US. :(

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:01 am (UTC)(link)
Abroad might be the best answer as long as Trump is in charge.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:00 am (UTC)(link)
Whenever I have been brave and taken a step out of my comfort zone to do something I wanted to do, I have never regretted it. Regardless of how hard it was or how it turned out.

On the other hand, every time I have taken the safe option I have ALWAYS regretted it. Without exception.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:56 am (UTC)(link)
If you go abroad I can 100% say that you will not regret it. You will learn a huge amount about yourself and the world.

That said, if you decide to stay in the US fully commit to it. Don't do it because of negative reasons i.e. because you're afraid of the uncertainty leaving brings. Do it because staying allows you opportunities to align yourself with your true values and goals.

I have had opportunities and situations in life when it would have made sense for me to go abroad for a year or two. But I decided to stay. Why? Because the things I truly wanted in life (stability, domestic comfort and closeness with family and friends) were more realistically achieved by staying. having made the decision to stay, I double-downed on it and worked towards my goals - worked on myself physically, emotionally and mentally, put myself out there in dating situations, worked on getting a stable career, put effort into having a more positive relationship with my family, etc etc. And now, a few years later and building a life with a wonderful partner, I don't regret not traveling when I was younger because I knew it would have felt almost like I was putting my life on hold, and I didn't want to waste anymore time.

TL;DR: People never regret a choice made for positive reasons. Work out what you truly want in life, and work towards it - once you do that, the choice about going overseas or not will become much easier.

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[personal profile] lordbaelish 2017-07-28 02:19 am (UTC)(link)
You will never regret what you try, only what you don't try!

Ok in all seriousness -- as somebody with both good and bad experiences that front, I feel compelled to encourage you on taking a chance. At worst, you will find yourself exactly like you were at the start. At best..., I can't even describe it, but I am CONVINCED it will boost your confidence and savings to boot.

Then again, I also don't know any specifics about your situation. Except you did mention you wanted to teach and probably... if you are teaching abroad, you will most probably at least meet other people who are in the same situation.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:19 am (UTC)(link)
Saw a post headcanoning young adult and teen characters as ace bashed as being "gross" because "you're sexualizing a minor" on a blog where headcanoning any character as gay (or growing up to be gay) would be celebrated. Like regardless of your opinion an ace discourse that is some serious fucking hypocrisy.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:54 am (UTC)(link)
I think I saw that post, too. It made me go "???"

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:54 am (UTC)(link)
I keep getting nasty headaches and falling asleep during the hottest part of the day, and my body is just generally being a pain. Also all my chicks suddenly developed coccidiosis, a protozoan parasite that makes them crap blood (which has been attracting ants because of fucking course it does) and I've been dragging the sickest, who has fucked up tendons in her legs and can't really walk, to the vet constantly.

Plus I have more mom's death paperwork to do and have to go pick up her ashes and death certificate tomorrow. And of course, the sociopath-in-chief can't stop being a fucking monster for one damn day. This timeline sucks diseased hairy balls.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:56 am (UTC)(link)
I think I fucked up my foot and I have to go to my labor-heavy work tomorrow. I don't want to call out.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:02 am (UTC)(link)
I cannot sleep a whole night through. It's destroying my life.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:27 am (UTC)(link)
I took a walk on break at work yesterday and tripped on an uneven section of asphalt. Fell hard, and I'm obese, so it hurt like hell. Skinned my knee really bad and pulled the muscles in one arm. Luckily no one was around to witness it, but I feel so beat up today. I was just trying to do something good for my body. :(

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:42 am (UTC)(link)
Why can't meds and therapy be free? And general doctor visits? I am too depressed to work or do anything anymore, but the thought of spending the money to get help stresses me out more. I've also been sick a lot.

I am just stuck doing nothing and being too exhausted all the time. I can't break the cycle.

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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 02:59 am (UTC)(link)
I've learned that if I get up too early, my executive function just.... stops. I just.. can't. I hadn't ever really put it together before but for a few years now I worked from home and could sleep in until around 9 and I was happy and productive and really felt like myself.

Now SO has an early morning job which means some days I'm up with him at 5am and even if I nap later I just can't function those days. I just feel stupid all day, I can't make myself do anything, I can't write, I can't work, I can barely focus on fun things. I don't even feel like myself. Even if I go to bed early and get enough sleep it's just awful.

Days I don't have to be up? I am happy and energetic and I can think, and do things, and it's wonderful.

... I feel like such a fucked up useless human being that I can't even handle waking up early and doing nothing. This is one of those work-days, so if this doesn't make much sense, that's why.

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