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Also, the bar chairs sucked as usual, and now my back is spasming.
I really want to take tomorrow off, but we're eating dinner at someone's house, so I have to be social and not just sleep and drink.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:39 pm (UTC)(link)So we were really happy when they opened what they called "emergency commissions", apparently for health reasons.
Now this artist seems to have a few demons of their own but they didn't have a history of not delivering the commissions they took. And we are absolutely prepared to wait a while, especially since they said beforehand it might take some time. The artist is pretty popular so we are not the only people by far who got a commission spot, so that's another reason why we don't want to be impatient.
Thing is, we also watch the artist's twitter. And while al ost all of their tweets are in Russian and only readable for us via bad Google translate, they also regularly post pictures. So we've seen the money from the commissions being invested already (bought a new laptop, keeps going shopping) and tons of selfies during various outings. Some health mentions sprinkled through it as well. But not a single word about the commissions. And it's not been that long (a bit over a month I guess?) but I really would appreciate at least one tiny comment on the matter.
The main reason is that I've been burned by undelivered commissions before and it took some convincing myself to risk it, and with a fairly big sum for broke little me as well. And I'd just like to have the feeling that I won't regret it.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-27 11:42 pm (UTC)(link)In before "LJ is dead,Jim" - I know. But people on my friends list are active.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:00 am (UTC)(link)On the other hand, every time I have taken the safe option I have ALWAYS regretted it. Without exception.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:56 am (UTC)(link)That said, if you decide to stay in the US fully commit to it. Don't do it because of negative reasons i.e. because you're afraid of the uncertainty leaving brings. Do it because staying allows you opportunities to align yourself with your true values and goals.
I have had opportunities and situations in life when it would have made sense for me to go abroad for a year or two. But I decided to stay. Why? Because the things I truly wanted in life (stability, domestic comfort and closeness with family and friends) were more realistically achieved by staying. having made the decision to stay, I double-downed on it and worked towards my goals - worked on myself physically, emotionally and mentally, put myself out there in dating situations, worked on getting a stable career, put effort into having a more positive relationship with my family, etc etc. And now, a few years later and building a life with a wonderful partner, I don't regret not traveling when I was younger because I knew it would have felt almost like I was putting my life on hold, and I didn't want to waste anymore time.
TL;DR: People never regret a choice made for positive reasons. Work out what you truly want in life, and work towards it - once you do that, the choice about going overseas or not will become much easier.
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Ok in all seriousness -- as somebody with both good and bad experiences that front, I feel compelled to encourage you on taking a chance. At worst, you will find yourself exactly like you were at the start. At best..., I can't even describe it, but I am CONVINCED it will boost your confidence and savings to boot.
Then again, I also don't know any specifics about your situation. Except you did mention you wanted to teach and probably... if you are teaching abroad, you will most probably at least meet other people who are in the same situation.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 12:54 am (UTC)(link)Plus I have more mom's death paperwork to do and have to go pick up her ashes and death certificate tomorrow. And of course, the sociopath-in-chief can't stop being a fucking monster for one damn day. This timeline sucks diseased hairy balls.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 01:42 am (UTC)(link)I am just stuck doing nothing and being too exhausted all the time. I can't break the cycle.
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(Anonymous) 2017-07-28 02:59 am (UTC)(link)Now SO has an early morning job which means some days I'm up with him at 5am and even if I nap later I just can't function those days. I just feel stupid all day, I can't make myself do anything, I can't write, I can't work, I can barely focus on fun things. I don't even feel like myself. Even if I go to bed early and get enough sleep it's just awful.
Days I don't have to be up? I am happy and energetic and I can think, and do things, and it's wonderful.
... I feel like such a fucked up useless human being that I can't even handle waking up early and doing nothing. This is one of those work-days, so if this doesn't make much sense, that's why.
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