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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-08-08 06:47 pm

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(Anonymous) 2017-08-08 10:59 pm (UTC)(link)
same tbh.

I mean, I haven't read those specific stories, but I definitely have an intense embarrassment squick and will procastinate reading or watching things because of it

(Anonymous) 2017-08-08 11:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Second-hand embarrassment can be really hard to stomach, I feel you OP. Movies with embarrassment scenes in particular can be unwatchable for me.
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[personal profile] caerbannog 2017-08-08 11:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't struggle to that extent but yeah I get some ick feelings.
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[personal profile] nightscale 2017-08-08 11:31 pm (UTC)(link)
My second hand embarrassment squick isn't that bad but sometimes I do have to pause whatever I'm watching/reading to mentally prepare for the characters humiliating themselves.
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[personal profile] tabaqui 2017-08-08 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
I definitely feel that, but i just tend to skim or ff if it's a movie or something. Screw it, i'll miss a few minutes or paragraphs so i can enjoy the rest!
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[personal profile] analise 2017-08-09 01:25 am (UTC)(link)
It doesn't bother me so much in fiction but OMG I haaaaaaate that super-public-proposal thing people do. Like what is the person being proposed to supposed to do? Everybody is expecting a yes but maybe they're not ready to get married or maybe they hate public displays like that and now their significant other has done this thing that shows they actually haven't given any consideration into how they might like to be proposed to. That would at least make me think twice a little about whether I wanted to marry someone who couldn't consider my feelings on that sort of subject.


It's topic I can't help but rant a little about, sorry. Carry on!

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 03:17 am (UTC)(link)
Obviously not always the case, but I would think that, in real life, people who reach the point of marriage proposals (highly public or otherwise) are also far along enough in the relationship to have reasonable expectation of getting a 'yes'. It's not really the total surprise that movies make it seem.
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[personal profile] analise 2017-08-09 03:21 am (UTC)(link)

Oh, I get the expectation of a 'yes''s just the public spectacle of it. Maybe it's just because I would hate it so much if someone did that to me. I can only hope that the proposer knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that the proposee would be okay with that sort of thing hence my comment about having to second guess a little, maybe, if the my hypothetical proposer didn't take my own feelings into account.

Probably in most cases it's totally fine and it's my own discomfort speaking here.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 04:01 am (UTC)(link)
Beyond a shadow of a doubt is probably not possible, but in long-term relationships with marriage as a goal, people would probably have a good idea what their partners want out of a proposal. Obviously you shouldn't marry someone who didn't take your feelings into account, but why would we have to think this is happening in the first place? Most people tailor their proposals after ideas dropped by their partners, whether that be a highly public event or a moonlit waterfall setting.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 05:42 am (UTC)(link)
I was once witness to a public proposal while listening to a musical act in a bar. The guy even got the band in on it. The woman REALLY seemed to want to be anywhere else at that moment. She eventually said "Oh, all right." Not exactly an enthusiastic response. I was sitting there hoping someone would pull the fire alarm or something and put us all out of our misery. SO AWKWARD.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 01:31 am (UTC)(link)
I don't have a PDA squick, but I've had second-hand embarrassment in other things keep me from enjoying them (The Guild, etc).

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 11:16 am (UTC)(link)
I assume if he's going to be a significant part in the Thor movie that they needed a model that would have expressions that were easier to read than the previous Hulk. it's one thing if the Hulk is a small part of an ensemble cast, but to be on screen for significant portions of time, it makes sense they've made him a little easier on the eyes.

(Anonymous) 2017-08-09 11:16 am (UTC)(link)
wrong thread!