[ SECRET POST #3995 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3995 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Imagine Dragons]


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03.
[Stranger Things]


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04.
[Richard Hammond from Top Gear]


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05.
[MCU Steve Rogers]


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06.
[The Punisher]


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07.
[Jennifer Lawrence]


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08.
[Josh Brolin]


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[Left: Brian Molko of Placebo / Right: David Bowie]










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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Black people (women, specifically) of F!S, how do you feel when a white woman compliments your hair? Assume it's being said in a sincere tone of voice.

[(Anonymous)]

Flattered and a little weirded out. But then, my hair is generally a horrifying mess these days.

[(Anonymous)]

True. But if your hair wasn't a mess, but instead in something like this:

https://i2.wp.com/therighthairstyles.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/7-long-Senegalese-twists.jpg?resize=500%2C500&ssl=1

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Pretty!

If my hair looks good, I'll take a compliment from any color. Just don't get weird and over-the-top about it? Casual compliments are good.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

Whiter than snow here, but I feel like it might depend on how it's worded to? Like, if they're just like, "Wow your hair looks amazing/beautiful." or "I love the colour!" and it's about your hair looking nice and not about you being a POC?

Rather than, "Wow, your hair is so ETHNIC and BEAUTIFUL (BECAUSE IT'S ETHNIC)!"

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry to ask again, but would you consider this to be over the top? I sometimes get excited about beautiful things, but I don't want to be creepy.

"Wow, may I ask how long it took to get your hair done like that?" (Hair was similar to the above, but smaller twists & the twists had a golden tone running through them.)

"4(?) hours."

"That's a long time, but your hair looks really amazing! I've seen jewelry made of like these twisted coils of gold, and that's what you're hair looks like!"

"Thank you."

I ask because I had a boss tell me I wasn't allowed to compliment people on their hair, esp. Black women because it could come across as a microaggression. If that's true, I want to know, and I'll stop, but she was also white...

SA

[(Anonymous)]

Well, obviously, then my hair would deserve it.

^ I meant AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

....sa, who was ayrt before, not sa....

[(Anonymous)]

Personally (as a white person) I'm aware that this is a sometimes-touchy subject (and you shouldn't try to touch someone's hair because you think it's interesting or a cool texture or "exotic."). So I would never single out a compliment about hair because it could be uncomfortable for a black woman.

Personally I love the look of natural hair, but I wouldn't say it bc of above, and while I always think it's kind of a shame to see people with hair straightened to within an inch of its life, it's not my business, and I think it would be rude to say anything about it (but at the same time, I couldn't compliment it and mean it).