[ SECRET POST #3998 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3998 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Is there anyone else who's over 25 and still is unsure of their sexuality?

[(Anonymous)]

I think you shouldn't worry too much about it.

I get a little exasperated with the current trend of nailing down your identity and orientation with very, very exact labels. Yeah, general categories are useful for social navigation and it's nice when you find a category that fits and can describe yourself relatively simply. However, not everyone can be described that simply and you are not required to remain strictly loyal to your chosen label for the rest of your life. You can change your mind, or discover new things about yourself, or just experiment. Also, you don't have to put on a new label just because you experienced an attraction outside what is typical for you. It might mean something, or maybe it was a one-off, who knows.

I sometimes wonder about the motivations behind the focus on defining specific, rigid categories and insisting people figure out where they fit. I've sensed this undercurrent of "If everyone would just be very clear about how they identify and what they like, then no one ever has to feel awkward or rejected" but that's just not how relationships work. That's not even how hook-ups work.

I think "mostly X, but sometimes Y and I wonder if I might be a bit Z, I dunno" is a perfectly valid sexual orientation, if one must explain themselves at all.

Re: Is there anyone else who's over 25 and still is unsure of their sexuality?

[(Anonymous)]

I sometimes wonder about the motivations behind the focus on defining specific, rigid categories and insisting people figure out where they fit. I've sensed this undercurrent of "If everyone would just be very clear about how they identify and what they like, then no one ever has to feel awkward or rejected" but that's just not how relationships work. That's not even how hook-ups work.

thanks for this. articulates part of why romantic/grey orientations make no sense to me, even though I often see that people with similar experiences to mine find them useful.