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[ SECRET POST #4132 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4132 ⌋

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[Jay and Silent Bob]

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[Louisa May Alcott, An Old Fashioned Girl]

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[The Fall Part 2: Unbound]

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A friend of mine from college kept posting politics I kept disagreeing with and eventually removed me, along with a few mutual friends.(Which surprised me, as most of our disagreement was civil. She claimed she was "tidying up."

It was pretty obvious to me she was just tired of those posts getting comments. I can't even really blame her. I think in college she held back her less liberal-college friendly opinions, and didn't realize how that wouldn't go well on social media. No hard feelings. Just a little obvious what really happened.

"Tidying up" sounds like exactly what she was doing. Where was the lie?

Yeah, tidying up in the sense that she felt more comfortable not interacting with people whose opinions differed from hers. It's sad, but honestly, you're probably better off without someone like that.

lol like every person here wouldn't immediately block a Trump supporter

get real

Where: The LJ comm of Some smallish BL Fandom

When: Probably some twelve, thirteen years ago, by now

Who: A gay guy who appeared on the biggest fandom comm, probably wrote some fic and might have taken part in the discussions on the basis of being a Gay Guy with authority to be talking about gay manga. Either way, the girls are extatic to have an authentic speciment around and he's quickly befriended at least half of the population on the comm. I was the one who wasn't friends with anyone there in the LJ definition of it and hung out on the comm to chime in on discussions; I don't think I ever actually talked to him, but I was fascinated by his meteor rise in popularity and I would occasionally be checking on his journal. He'd write about his life with his boyfriend. The girls all loved it in a way that I'm sure we'd all be super uncomfortable about today.

Part of why I never actually talked to him might've been because I just couldn't shake the feeling that there was soemthing off about him that I just couldn't put my finger on.

Until I checked on his journal a few months after he first appeared, and found a long confession about how everything he'd written about himself and his boyfriend was totally true, except that he was a woman.

And I just went "oooh, of course", and to this day I've been wondering if there are some subtle linguistic difference between men and women, with the way this person just felt so much more right to me after revealing that she'd been lying for half a year.

Edited 2018-04-28 00:26 (UTC)

pre-identity politics era, most people who made a big deal about being what they are came off fake because everyone else was trying to be a "normal" person.

now, who knows, lol.

"to this day I've been wondering if there are some subtle linguistic difference between men and women"

There are! Women tend to soften statements and use more words

Fandom is even more divided because the linguistics of male dominated and female dominated places have different memes and stylistic choices (compare 4chan's greentexting to tumblr's no caps and informal spellings.) It's not hard to figure out where people frequent ime, especially if they're informal.

True that re: linguistics. I know for sure I change how I communicate depending on what site I'm on. I use more words, soften criticsm, and explain myself more thoroughly on dw and tumblr than on reddit for example. On the former, I anonymously pass as a girl. On the latter, I anonymously pass as a guy. No one's questioned it.

I wonder which people would guess is real if they somehow connected my accounts from both sites.

The more you know! I wonder if I might've somehow picked up on that, then, or if it wasn't just what the anon above pointed out: back in 2005, it was unusual to see someone make a fuss about being the only gay in the village.

I caught a former friend lying to me about some crazy person he'd had a problem with breaking into his house because specific things about the story kept changing every time he told it. He also tried to pass off zoning out on something for over an hour as an epileptic seizure. Epileptic seizures don't last anywhere near that long.

When they said they thought I was attractive.

our cosplay group is currently being plagued by an ex-friend who keeps lying to us about whose fault it was that her pet convention failed last year. she doesn't realize all of us are close friends with everyone who quit staff and we know all the poop from the inside already. she's been pulling Sarah Huckabee levels of "no everything's fine! really fine! great!" with us and no one is biting.

"I'm your friend and you can talk to me about anything."

*talk to friend about something in life that's bugging me*

"I don't know why you're so hung up on that; you need to get over it."

So... they're only your friend if they constantly validate your whining?

I'm sorry you failed reading comprehension.

I'm sorry your friends have limits on how long they're willing to listen to you whine. :'(

Again, your reading comprehension sucks.

The problem isn't that some people have limits. The problem is when some people offer to be there for you and then end up not being there for you. For example, when someone promises that you can talk to them about anything, it's perfectly reasonable to expect them to listen and NOT simply dismiss or minimize your problems. Especially when you're in a place where that kind of thing will hurt you the most. Otherwise, what's the use in saying "you can talk to me about anything"?

Wow you're an asshole.. fuck off.

I mean if you think friends being sad and wanting to talk and not be dismissed is whining...you probably either don't have friends or don't have enough closeness with friends that they trust you to confide in you.

I feel sorry for you. But take your saltiness somewhere else.

+1

Go back to F_FA, troll.

This is kind of sad but I was in an older fandom that had a lot of older women in it, say 30s and 40s and beyond. One in particular did up her FFnet bio page like a Tinder profile (although Tinder did not exist back then, LOL) with her... sexual likes/dislikes? She kind of went full rawwwwwr mama cougar on it with weird flirty comments and an attempt at a sexy pic of herself with cleavage and I just kept wondering... who on earth is this for? She was specifically advertising for a younger man though she at least said he had to be 18 minimum. Everything she said made it sound like she was a single MILF with no kids.

But I knew a bit about her from other circles and she was in her 40s, going through an ugly separation/divorce, with two young children. She also internet stalked several of the BNFs' journals, did that thing where she acted like people she barely knew were her new best friends, that kind of thing. When she was banned for creeping, she'd pop up with a new sockpuppet and try the whole new best friend thing all over again and she didn't realize her IP address gave her away. It was more pathetic than creepy and I figured she must be extremely lonely to behave like that.

"I swear I didn't eat the last piece of brownie," said he, unaware of the chocolate stains on the sides of his mouth.

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