[ SECRET POST #4155 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4155 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I don't want to do anything for my birthday but my family already invited people over to mine, so I have to clean my place and buy food they like so I don't have to hear them complain. I sound ungrateful because I am. Nobody asked me at any point. They all hate my place and will stand around talking about how I don't have enough room or chairs or it's cold. It's the way I like it because I live here and I don't like inviting people over in large groups.

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Can you make reservations for them all at a nearby restaurant? Or get your family to to so? Bringing up your points (not enough room, etc) might be persuasive.

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[(Anonymous)]

This might be controversial, but no, don't "persuade". This gives people the impression that this is a reasonable debate that's open to negotiation and it's not. OP's family is unreasonable and they're already walking all over them. Be firm: "Don't invite people over to my house for parties."

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Touché.

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[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I would, but they're bringing grandma. She's not been well so she'll just want to sit with a blanket and have tea. I might be able to convince the others to leave her here and go out.

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[(Anonymous)]

Wow. Does your family do that kind of thing often? It seems really rude and presumptuous that they don't care what you want. You have my permission to cancel, turn off the lights, lock the door and have a quiet night in by yourself. Phrase it somewhat passive aggressively if you want, i.e. "Hello everyone! I know my family invited you all over to my house, but actually I'm not prepared for company right now, so I'm calling it off. Maybe my family can host a gathering at their house if they want? Thanks everyone, and hope you're all having a good weekend!"

And seriously, put your foot down with your family about not pulling this crap again, or they'll just use you as a doormat forever.

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AYRT

Yeah they're like this all the time. I'm normally better with boundaries but they're using grandma to guilt me. She thought they'd sorted things out with me because they lied to her.

Re: Non fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

That's a pretty crummy thing for your family to do, anon. I'm sorry.

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[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Thanks, anon.

Re: Non fandom secrets

[greghousesgf]

god, that's rude! I wish I could give help other than offering my empathy. You really can't pick your family, can you?

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AYRT

Thanks. You really can't! I would invite them in smaller groups myself sometimes, except every time they come here they make this big show out of seeing how the poor cousin lives. I'm proud of my place and I take care of my things even if I can't afford to always be buying new things. My family are the living example of money not buying class.