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[ SECRET POST #4158 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4158 ⌋

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I reserve my fangirling for people who don't mind or who agree with me. I don't do this in front of people who 1) don't care or 2) find it super uncomfortable to hear me drool over my fandom crush because that seems really obnoxious to me. What do you think?

All things in moderation

I only do my fangirling around my closest friends because they love me enough to tolerate my nonsense. I don't do it around my family because they don't care and wouldn't understand and I would never do it around a stranger.

As long as the listeners don't express discomfort or ask you to stop.

I try not to fangirl over anything to people who aren't interested in the subject. This goes for crushes, fandoms, hobbies and pretty much anything.

this should be standard behavior for anything that one person loves to death that another person gives zero shits about. recipes, gardening, sports, cats, etc forever.

This.

This!!!

I'll talk about things I like in conversations with people who are also talking about things they like. I'm pretty open about being a nerd. But I don't go overboard I don't think (except with my parent's pastor who I always fangirl cats around since he hates them and has made some rude comments about them I really detest).

AYRT - I had never considered fangirling as a tool for punishment or revenge. I love it!

Not something I'd usually do. But if you joke about dead cats or killing cats, you are dead to me and deserving of whatever you get.

ooo what an asshole

Basically. I do not like him. But I can't say that to him on account of the parents. So I torture him with cat love instead.

Yes, this. There are a lot of things that interest me that don't interest everyone so I'll keep it to myself and wait until I can share them with someone who's interested. I think doing otherwise is pretty rude.

I think there is a range of fangirling. I'll share about things I like, but I only go full-on fangirl with audiences I'm comfortable with.

And frankly, I thought the secret maker of #6 was an asshole even though I hate all those actors too.

It can get very awkward and I do understand OP of that secret being squicked by their mother-in-law fangirling younger guys. I think it's fine to mention that you like a particular actor or whatever, but it gets obnoxious, awkward, and creepy PDQ if you keep bringing it up, and it's downright rude if you keep doing it around people who have expressed their discomfort at you doing it. I think MIL is allowed to crush on younger guys, tho.

If people aren't interested I limit it to "I think they're cute", because I know how annoying it is when other people go on and on about people I don't care about. I think this person/character is cute, I'll leave it at that.

Do you mean like.....drooling over a real person?

I made a mild fangirly comment about Hugh Laurie a few weeks ago and a FOAF got really pissy with me about it but I think this guy's a jerk so I ignored him.

Nah, not really. If something's going on that brings it up, I'll say I'm a fan/say I like a certain actor, but i won't get all nutty.

I *will* be a little more 'gushy', i guess? of a character than the actual actor around people who may or may not care.

If people aren't interested, then I'm not going to do it. Why am I going to make the effort to squee over something that I know someone doesn't give one shit about?

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Inspired by #6: Is it okay to drool over fandom crushes around people who aren't interested?

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