[ SECRET POST #4360 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4360 ⌋

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Re: What...

[rosehiptea]

I have this automatic assumption that everyone else is more important than I am, and what they want is more important than what I want. It's better than thinking I'm the most important person in the world but I wouldn't mind finding a happy medium.

Re: What...

[(Anonymous)]

<3 <3 <3

I can feel that for sure

Re: What...

[(Anonymous)]

This is probably a personal question, so please ignore it if you'd prefer, but do you think that feeling is in any way connected to motherhood? I know you've mentioned you have an adult son here on the community before. Did you feel this way about yourself prior to becoming a mother? If so, did the feeling become worse after you became a mother?

I'm just curious because I've definitely been there, rosehiptea. I'm not a mother myself, but sometimes I do think the reason I've always wanted to become a mother is in part because mothers are encouraged to downplay or forget their own needs in light of making sure all of their children's needs and most of their wants are met first.

I do hope you find your happy medium. You're very important. Our community wouldn't be what it is without you. You help make us more diverse and you offer lots of really interesting opinions. I love having you around.

Re: What...

[rosehiptea]

I don't mind personal questions, especially since it's a personal thing I said. I had the feeling long before I became a mother, but there's definitely an attitude of "A mother will sacrifice anything for her child," and that did make it worse. I remember feeling utterly destroyed when I couldn't breastfeed. Granted it wasn't a question of putting my wants first as I did want to do it, but I felt like I was letting my son down for the rest of his life and finally people started getting (justifiably) frustrated with me for not getting over it.

That is such a kind and thoughtful thing to say. I didn't realize anyone remembered me that well. Thank you so much.

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Yup, I know what you mean...