[ SECRET POST #4362 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4362 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[OP suggested a warning for "partial nudity and er... bulge"]














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Comments

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

What do you consider physically unattractive? Have you told your friend “I like guys with physical traits x, y, and z and am grossed out by traits 1, 2, and 3?”

Maybe all the attractive (to you) guys your friend knows are in relationships already, or maybe, if you haven’t told her your preferences, she’s using her own and thinks they’re hot. Maybe personality is more important than looks to her, and she’s bad at judging how physically attractive they are but thinks they’re awesome people.

Also, if the men she’s setting you up with don’t want you because you’re not a swimsuit model, not many people are swimsuit models, and also they’ve got professional trainers and makeup and hair teams and photoshop editors, so those men may always be disappointed because magazine covers=/=real life. If the men you’re attracted to are Calvin Klein underwear models or Hollywood heartthrobs, not many people are Calvin Klein models or heartthrobs, and they also have professional teams to make them look good.

Also I’m an ugly woman who’s attracted to guys who are better looking than me, so I just get on with living my life single. It’s no one’s fault they’re not attracted to me, any more than it’s my fault for being attracted to fairly conventionally attractive men. And If you’re wondering if you’re ugly, I bet you’re not. If you’re ugly, people will let you know loudly, often, and unprompted except by your existence that you disgust them, not just turn down a second date. Those guys probably just picked up that you weren’t attracted to them.

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

OP. I have been told by family members that I'm unattractive or ugly. I'd rather be alone than be with an ugly man I don't want. I quit asking my friend for help and now she's irritated.

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT—Your “friend” and family sound kind of cruel, tbh, and like the might be exacerbating any self-esteem issues you already had. And if you’re on a position to go on dates and have friends set you up on dates, I doubt anyone can force you to go out with someone you’re not interested in.

If your friend/family keep pushing you to date, tell them you’d rather focus on other stuff for now. If you meet someone and hit it off, cool, if not, you’ll still be learning to have fun while single and make better more friends. And maybe look into therapy, because fixating on how you’d rather die than date guys you think are ugly is an ott response to your kind of bitchy friend/sort of asshole family negging you about your looks and insisting that you “settle.”

Have you ever told them you’d rather be alone than settle? I get it, not attracting the partners/attention you want is no fun. But it’s also not worth dwelling on all the time or stewing in misery over. In this day and age you’re not gonna be stuck in your parents’ attic as an old maiden aunt your whole life just because you’re single.

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

I've been in therapy. Therapy doesn't do shit except try to tell me that I have value- which I already know I have. More than most people on this planet! And I wasn't even asking the therapist if I have value! I don't think my response is OTT at all in any way.


But I already am an old maiden aunt in my parents' abode. So. There goes your theories.

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

She isn't bad at judging physical attractiveness at all.
She told me a long time ago that I am never going to get the cute guys.

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

People think I am funny looking and kind of hint at it, that I am only "okay" and have to settle and/or take what I can get- and I answer them right back with "I'd rather be dead than force myself to be with a man I don't want, just to make everyone else glad".

Re: Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

No, these guys didn't pick up that I was not attracted to them. One of them made a face when my cousin asked what he thought of me, and the other one didn't talk to me all night and avoided me at the party.

What if I told that there is something wrong with my face? That people think I am funny looking because of birth trauma, and I will never have enough money to fix it? Do I get to pick who I want then? Or just keep on suffering and struggling for another 25 years or more? Or perhaps you'll just try to reassure me that I'm not ugly and that I'll find someone that will like me for me, like some volunteer did when I began crying one day?