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[ SECRET POST #4406 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4406 ⌋

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I sympathized with this 100% until you mentioned you send them anon hate.

I know sending hate is bad, but how am I supposed to deal with it? They never even saw him live, they're not even from the US but from some godforsaken little country and while their art is good I don't think it's fair they get so much attention from him

You deal with it like an adult and you seek help for these unhealthy feelings.

But what makes them deserve that? They're not in any way responsible for your feelings and you making them feel like shit doesn't change a thing except make you an asshole.

How about channeling all those feelings into some art of your own (there are several other options if you're not into drawing), so maybe your crush will notice you instead?

harassing them isn't going to take you any closer to interacting with this celebrity, in fact it might cause the opposite. And just listen to yourself 'they are from some little nothing place, why do they get to have this nice thing?'

Get a life

I know sending hate is bad, but how am I supposed to deal with it?

Just a wild stab in the dark here, but maybe by NOT sending anon hate to someone whose only crime was to be noticed by a random stranger who liked their work?

You're supposed to deal with it by growing the fuck up and getting the fuck over yourself.

they're not even from the US but from some godforsaken little country

Are you...are you seriously playing the Chauvinist American, here?

Honestly, at this point I'm 50/50 on you being a troll. Or like 15 years old. Care to weigh in?

Okay so maybe that was kind of rude, sorry I guess. I wish I were a troll, would make my life easier. Anyway I just meant that it's not fair that never once went to his show and I did (9 times in fact) and I even met him at stage door. He never responds to my compliments on Instagram but drools over her paintings, I just don't think that's fair is all

NAYRT, but what exactly is unfair about this person admiring someone's art? And what exactly does it have to do with him responding to (or not) one of probably dozens of random instagram comments?

DA, that is perfectly fair. I'm sorry you're feeling unnoticed, but this actor doesn't need to respond to every comment they get on Instagram. This artist is clearly good at what they do and works hard on their art and from your secret they're apparently a nice person, so it's perfectly "fair" that this actor befriended them as a peer. What ISN'T fair is this artist being sent anon hate because you are jealous. Grow up.

Maybe the fact that you're not actually creating anything? You're just one more rando going "Kyaa~ Celebrity-Sama!!!! Daisuki desu~!!!" on the internet. No1curr.

Sometimes I think she only paints him because she enjoys his praise and getting a repost

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(Anonymous) - 2019-01-27 22:24 (UTC) - Expand

being a fan really isn't something praiseworthy, i'm baffled you think it is on the same level as art.

Maybe your behavior is too stalkery and disturbing and he’s deliberately avoiding paying attention to you? Celebrities don’t owe fans any or equal amounts of individual attention and your attacking another fan makes you an asshole.

You need to get therapy, OP, and you need to quit being a shallow, selfish brat. This artist is putting time, effort, and talent into their work. It's cool that they are getting recognition for those attributes. What, exactly, are you putting into your life to be recognized? Anon hate mail? Buying tickets to their shows (one amoung thousands of others)? This whining? So impressive.

Yeah, if I was the celebrity, I wouldn't want anything to do with you, either.

Well, meeting him at the stage door is probably way easier for you than the artist, if the stage door is in the US....

I don't know what to say to you, anon, except things which you ought to know already (and probably do know). No one owes you any attention, celebrities included. The amount of emotions and money you put in it does not matter, because your payment is the actor's work - the chance of seeing him live - that's what you're paying for. Nothing more.

It's normal to feel jealous that some fan got noticed when you didn't, but it's not normal to care so much that you are sending that fan hate mail. Take a step back. Enjoy your favourite's actor work and focus on that.

DA

Bitter people are rarely rational, and come in all shapes, sizes and ages.

NAYRT but even if they're irrational, you'd expect them to be self-aware enough to know that they're doing something wrong and that we're going to yell at them

You'd be surprised. I'm pregnant and my neighbor can only think about how I'm no longer paying attention to her and her problems. She's 65.

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(Anonymous) - 2019-01-28 01:34 (UTC) - Expand

You're...kidding, right? You deal with it by being an adult and not a creepy, entitled shit.

Deal with what, exactly? I really don't understand your problem.

How is some actor you like talking online to someone you don't really know something you have to deal with? How do you even 'deal' with this actor having friends/lovers irl if you can't even handle online interaction?

You could always grow the fuck up and try not to be a prick to people who don't deserve it? Maybe focus more on what you want in life than hating on other people who have the slightest good fortune? Keeping your petty, jealous thoughts to yourself and instead being gracious towards that artist? Working on being a genuinely nice person instead of a shithead? That would be a good start.

Any sympathy I had for you disappeared the second you mentioned you send anon hate. I have some very sweet and emotionally-vulnerable friends who get anon hate all the time, and I see how deeply it hurts them to be told such horrible things, because I'm the one they come to to express the hurt they feel from vile assholes who can't keep their sociopathy and sense of entitlement to themselves. So you can just get fucked, anon.

This. I know I'm just adding another to the pile here, but OP, you really need to take a step back. You are not entitled to this celebrity's affection just for existing, being a fan or "going to their shows." The poor person you've been harassing deserves an apology, and a pat on the back for being the bigger person and ignoring your bizarre obsessive hate mail.

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