[ SECRET POST #4406 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4406 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 47 secrets from Secret Submission Post #631.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

04. https://i.imgur.com/eBHOeE1.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I sympathized with this 100% until you mentioned you send them anon hate.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, so you're a huge piece of shit with no sense of perspective, in other words.
Get off the internet for a while.
Like maybe a year.
For their sake, if no one else's.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. Seek help. Your behaviour is disgusting.

[(Anonymous)]

This artist sounds really classy, and I'm glad their work is getting attention!

[(Anonymous)]

Sending this artist rude messages sucks. Your behavior is not cool, and kind of pathetic. But the good news is, you can stop.

Also, did you notice that in your secret you never once admitted you were jealous? You are obviously suuuper jealous, and you really should be clear about that with yourself. Acknowledge it, accept it, and then deal with it. Maybe then you won't take it out on this artist who hasn't done anything wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

You have a lot of growing up to do, OP. Apologize to this artist for being a dick. They probably won't respond, but it's the right thing to do. Then leave them alone. Also, consider taking a break from fandom while you work out the difference between real and make-believe.

[(Anonymous)]

wtf. you're an ass. stop sending anon hate. keep it encased in your bitter, envious little heart.

[(Anonymous)]

Can you please link us to this artist so we can sent them nice and reassuring DMs to balance your asshattery.

[(Anonymous)]

You're a childish brat and if this is how you behave, the actor probably wouldn't like you very much if they did actually get to know you.

[(Anonymous)]

Reading all these comments, and anon's responses, I 100% believe that this celebrity is probably ignoring their comments and approaches in person because they give off creepy stalker vibes.

Anon, STEP AWAY FROM YOUR OBSESSION FOR A BIT. Your attitude about this is only making you creepier, unlikable, and honestly really gross. I wouldn't want to acknowledge someone so hateful, either. Think of this celebrity's personal feelings, and also what it would look like if they acknowledged someone like you that behaves in this way?

Even if this person received the attention after the fact, the way you are acting toward them is only going to put you farther and farther away from this celebrity. And I'll be real with you - You aren't entitled to their attention. You aren't ever going to be anything to them on the level that they mean to you - you have a crush and realistically your emotions can't evolve beyond that into a relationship, if that's what you're expecting. Have some perspective.

And how do you deal with these feelings? Get therapy. Analyze why you feel this way and ask yourself how you can change for the better. Recognize that you're not entitled to the attention so that when you feel this bitterness well up, you can step the fuck away and do something else to distract yourself, or you will never ever get over it.

[(Anonymous)]

Is this about that person who made a painting of Lin-Manuel Miranda as Hamilton that he recently made his Twitter icon? Well, whether it is or it isn't, you do not own that celebrity and you aren't owed special praise for being a fan. The artist person is putting in effort to create something and getting likely-deserved praise for their efforts. It's frankly very creepy and possessive and stalkery for you to be this entitled about an actual human being that you don't even know.

[(Anonymous)]

Look, I'll be honest with you. I don't think you're A Bad Person Forever because you sent someone some rude messages over the internet. But you're not being a good person when you do it, and the more you let yourself behave this way, the more it becomes a "that's who you are" thing. And I'm almost positive that you don't want to be a pathetic jerk loser. So you gotta cut it out. Take responsibility for your feelings.

Nobody is wronging you here. You're just not getting what you want. You're a fan who doesn't have a reciprocal relationship with a celeb. Congrats, you're in very, very good company. 99.9% of people who are fans of anyone do not have a reciprocal relationship with that person. That's life. Now stop being a dick.

[nightscale]

Seems to me like the artist deserves all the positive attention they're getting and I hope they continue to get more from the actor and other people.

Get off the internet and get a life.

[dahli]

Next time you feel like leaving a comment out of petinness just walk away from the computer. If you don't stop now you'll come to regret it one day.

[(Anonymous)]

OP is a fucking creep.

[(Anonymous)]

I hope your crush does notice you, just so they can tell you what a vengeful little bitch you are.
How about you get your head out of your ass and grow the fuck up instead of sending petty hate mail over someone who doesn't even know/care you exist, yeah?

[(Anonymous)]

I mean you're entitled to your feelings and your pain, and even to stop talking to/following a person or reblogging their stuff.

But going out of your way to be an asshole to someone who you know did nothing wrong to you?

Stop that.

Now.

There's no excuse for that.

I'm sure you wouldn't enjoy it if the situation was reversed, even if you were content to have the attention of your crush. I know it hurts, and I'm sorry it hurts, but when you're hurting others in response to your hurt, that's when you need to get a grip.

[tabaqui]

I...gotta say 'troll'. I'm having a hard time believing anyone is this un-self-aware and this...i dunno, deluded.

Someone who isn't a tRump fan, that is....

[(Anonymous)]

At best you're young and extremely immature. At worst you're a horrible entitled xenophobic shithead of a person.

[(Anonymous)]

Jealousy can be a bitch, that's for sure. Recognizing that this artist does not deserve your rudeness, and stepping away to the point of unfollowing and not interacting with them anymore... that's good. I deal with my insecurity/jealousy by not ever reading reviews on other people's fic (unless I'm feeling masochistic?). I used to think I needed to ~work through~ that shit so I'd force myself... but really it's just so much easier to not do things that ignite the stupid jealous feelings in the first place.

[(Anonymous)]

it's okay to feel that way and to be angry but i would stop sending the person rude messages if i were you. you'll only feel stupid about it later on.

instead, write your rude messages to them in a private file just to get it out of your system but don't show anyone.

[(Anonymous)]

I was with you until the last bit, OP. I'm not an artistic person, so none of my celeb crushes would ever notice me because I'm just another fan squealing in the comments. The only creative thing I do is write fic, but you can't exactly hand a celebrity crush some fic you wrote with them in it because that's weird for everyone involved. But come on, OP. Sending rude messages to the artist is incredibly shitty. The artist hasn't wronged you and your crush is entitled to like whatever art they like. It's unlikely to happen, but imagine how your crush would feel about you if they found out you're the sort of person who sends hate messages to one of their favorite artists.

[(Anonymous)]

Yikes, OP. I'm not going to dogpile you because you know this is super uncool and that's why it's a secret. But a word of caution - if you're leaving anon hate without using a VPN, someone somewhere has your IP address and the fact that you're leaving hate makes it more likely that sometime it may be traced back to you.

Like others have suggested, I recommend taking some time away from the fandom and maybe the internet. Your behavior is what it is because you're too emotionally invested in this and it's reached unhealthy levels. Please try and extricate yourself before it backfires, or at least so it doesn't poison your appreciation for others in your fandom.

[chamonix]

Assuming this is all genuine, I'm sure you're angry and hurt by all the tough love you've received here, and probably think that people are being unfair because they don't understand your situation. It's quite clear by the tone of both your secret and comments that you are unwilling to take personal responsibility for your own behaviour or feelings. So here is my message to you.

It is not a failing of this celebrity that he chose to pay attention to this artist over you. This situation is neither his fault nor the artist's. It doesn't matter if she enjoys the attention she's getting for her art. It doesn't matter if she hasn't seen his shows or lives in another country and is therefore less 'deserving' of his appreciation.

You have to own your feelings. You are angry, jealous, sad and hurt. Nobody has a choice in exactly what they feel in the moment, but you DO have a choice in how you react. Sending spiteful messages to this artist and begging for attention from the celebrity is not a good reaction.

So instead, take a step back. "What am I supposed to do?" you asked. Well, how about focus on becoming the kind of person you wanted this celebrity to see you as? Not for an end goal of actually gaining his attention, because that's a dead end, but for your own self-respect. Focus on bettering yourself and leave these people alone. Perhaps one day you will attract the attention you want, but on the merits of your own personality, not this toxic crusade of bitterness.