[ SECRET POST #4412 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4412 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid]


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[Haunted (on Netflix), "The Slaughterhouse"]


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[Criminal Minds]


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05.
[The Promised Neverland]


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[British rapper Big Narstie]


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[Criminal Minds season 4, episode 13, "Bloodline"]


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[Angelina Jolie in Lara Croft: Tomb Raider]












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Comments

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

I have a classmate who gives me a hard time about things I like in the most passive aggressive way and frequently talks about people who agree with her as "normal people" often when I'm around. I like nerdy things like anime and trading cards is all.

My roommate agrees shes doing on purpose but thinks I need to "suck it up" and I shouldnt whine because people think I'm weird if I like "weird" stuff. I just dont want to be called abnormal or mocked. Am I whiny?

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

I think you have seperate issues here but mainly your roommate is trying to communicate she is not willing to be a receptacle for your venting anymore and you need to find another way to cope or reframe your discussion of it with her. Seperately, when what we want out of life and what we get don’t line up there isn’t always a magical fix. Your classmates issues/projections/whatever might have nothing to do with you but will continue to affect you until either her behavior changes, the situation changes, or how you choose to process/react to her baiting does.

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

No. And your roommate kind of sucks if he/she thinks that you should just shut up and agree to be picked on and bullied. Re: the previous comment... how much do you vent to your roommate on this topic? Because the "suck it up" might be an indication that your roommate is tired of hearing the same complaint, even if they believe it's 100% valid.

If you feel you can, it'd probably be more effective to tackle the bully directly:

"Wow, that came a little passive aggressive."
"Rude."
"It's 2019 and 98% of our blockbuster films are about comic book superheroes. It's not weird to like [nerdy thing]."
"You sound like a high school bully in an 80s movie."

Refuse to be cowed. You're fine, your classmate is the insecure asshole. treat her as such, like she just said something rude and kind of embarrassing, because that's what she did. Laugh if you can. And exit the conversation, shaking your head over her immaturity.

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

Point out that it's rude, yeah, but please don't use those comebacks. They're terrible and will get you bullied more.

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT but I mean, pointing out the fact that superhero comics pretty much rule the box office right now is pretty factual and not terrible imo?

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

It's too long winded and hyperdefensive. Comes off as something you'd read in a "and then everybody clapped" story but when the showdown actually actually happens, it stutters out of your mouth as you try to remember the percentages.

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

Lol bully is not a fact-based art omg

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

Fair enough, but if you want to say SOMETHING, and not just look embarrassed and slink away at it being pointed out that you like ~nerdy~ stuff, saying, "Hey, superheros are pretty in right now, so I can't be that wrong," seems fine to me.

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Yeah, all of these sound fine to me. Maybe shorten a couple of them down a little, but the basic point of each is completely legit. The real thing about jibes, I think, is that you have to tailor them to be something you'd say. So I might not say, "It's 2019, nerdy things are cool now," but I would say, "Excuse you, nerdy stuff's awesome."

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

First of all: you're not whiny. This person is being shitty to you. You don't deserve that, and they're not right to do it. I'm sorry that they are doing it. They sound like a dickhead. And your roommate isn't doing a good job of being a supportive friend.

At the same time - your practical options for getting a dickhead to stop acting like a dickhead are, unfortunately, pretty limited. It's not really something that you can control, necessarily, if someone is really committed to it. So there are a lot of cases where the most practical thing to do is to ignore it.

And that sucks. And ignoring it sucks. And it's not the way it should be, and it's not ultimately a reflection on you, and I'm sorry that the world has to be this way. And if it feels like shit, and if you ever want to vent about it, that's totally justified on your part - it's not the result of you doing anything wrong. (And if you do want to talk about it, we're always here).

Re: Advice thread

[(Anonymous)]

You can still be whiny about totally undeserved, shitty luck if you’re over fixating on it as if you’re the only one injustice occurs to. Sometimes a good friend lets you know when the self pity has gone too far instead of letting you simmer in it. We can’t exactly say from here.