[ SECRET POST #4424 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4424 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry you're feeling sad, OP :( I don't know what your situation is but obviously not having a child is painful for you. I went back and forth on wanting kids... now that I'm over 40 it's very unlikely to happen and I've (mostly) made peace with it. Some women choose to have kids, some choose not to, and some of us just have to deal with the fact that it never happened.

I suppose this doesn't have much to do with the content of your secret but the anger really spoke to me. Take care, OP

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks, <3

[(Anonymous)]

I'm gonna be honest, OP would have my sympathy except for how she's taking out her misery on childfree people. Me and people like me get enough shit about not wanting kids, she can take her empty womb and choke on her shriveled, selfish heart and bullshit about biological imperatives.

The moment you take your bitterness at not having kids out on other people and telling them with a pat on the head that, no, really, they have nothing to complain about, you stop being sympathetic and instead become a bitter bitch who has no joy in her life and has wrapped up EVERYTHING in her identity in the fact she's not had a kid.

[(Anonymous)]

Jesus what an overreaction. What bitterness is being "taken out"? Rolling eyes at previous childfree people who ended up having kids? Big deal, no one's hurt.

[(Anonymous)]

Making the secret isn't taking out her misery on others, though. She probably has to stifle her feelings irl. I didn't go read all the comments; I'm sure with the amount that this secret has, people are being nasty on both sides. If that's what you're referring to, then I can't really comment.

Childfree people take a lot of shit, yes, but so do childless people. We all fall outside of the norm and people think we're freaks.

[(Anonymous)]

Biological imperative, for one, to justify a tired trope.

The entire secret is telling childfree people to shut up because every childfree person she knows changed their mind and they have babies now and OMG SHE DOESN'T!!!!! WAAAAH

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. It's understandable to be disappointed when your life doesn't turn out the way you'd planned. What's not cool is when you start taking that disappointment out on other people and being nasty to them because their life DID go the way they wanted it to.

And, What's more, it's toxic and unhealthy to let your entire identity get wrapped up in this thing that didn't happen. Eventually you gotta make like Elsa and let it go and move on and focus on what you DO have in your life instead of what you don't.

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously. I didn't get to be a non-disabled person. I'm not gonna shame able-bodied people for being able-bodied. It sucks but life doesn't always turn out how you want.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not the same thing and that's what people don't get. Unless people blame you for having a disability and believe it was something within your control?

But you're right. People shouldn't take out their pain on others and I hope OP is able to heal and move on from this.

[(Anonymous)]

Have you




Have you never seen how people treat the disabled

I'm constantly called lazy, a faker, that I'm just wanting free money for nothing, that I should kill myself because I don't contribute, etc. Told to get a job anyway because it can't be that bad, I just don't want to work. Like. Dude. Dude. I am absolutely blamed for having my disability like it was in my control. Bootstraps mentality is a big thing.

[(Anonymous)]

That's awful. WTF is wrong with people

[(Anonymous)]

A lot, unfortunately.

Some of this came from my own family, to boot. :/

[(Anonymous)]

If your disability isn't easily visible, then I see the parallel... people make assumptions that they shouldn't (and if it IS obvious then those people aren't just ignorant, they're straight up dicks. ...actually it sounds like they're dicks either way, esp coming from family). I don't mean to argue that point. I'm sorry, anon

[(Anonymous)]

I walk with a limp on my best days. Like, a huge obvious one. On my best days. Many days I have to use a cane and I'm nearing the point of wheelchair, and I can't do a whole lot. I spend a lot of time miserable in bed and in pain.

My family definitely knew. I've wanted to get out and work and move out way sooner than I did tbh.

[(Anonymous)]

I wish everyone who thinks you're faking or lazy could trade places with you on one of your worst days.

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't wish my worst days on anyone. I'm a bit bitter at people who think I'm lazy or faking, but I wouldn't wish the sheer amount of pain I'm in on anyone. It's cruel.

[(Anonymous)]

Unless people blame you for having a disability and believe it was something within your control?


You don't talk to disabled people much, huh? Cos, honeylamb, that happens all the fucking time.

[(Anonymous)]

I work for a company that helps the disabled. I wasn't trying to be snarky or anything. I really should just keep my mouth shut on here but I'm an idiot.

Not OP

[(Anonymous)]

Well it must be nice to have everything all figured out. Like the people who tell a clinically depressed person to JUST GET OVER IT. Fuck all of you holier than thou people and your mock compassion.

Re: Not OP

[(Anonymous)]

But OP is the one doing that, bitterly telling childfree people to get the fuck over every instance of a childfree woman having kids out of the blue... Like, the point is we don't have it figured out, but we sure as fuck don't take it the fuck out of random people, whining about our ~empty womb~, screaming about biological imperatives.