[ SECRET POST #4478 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4478 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

"a man who cares about making sure his partner enjoys sex, respects that his partner doesn't always want sex when he does, is open to constructive communication where sex is concerned, and recognizes that sex is a win-win endeavor, not a win-lose competition"

A man who matches all of the criteria sounds harder to find than a unicorn.

[(Anonymous)]

1. I'm sorry that's been your experience.

2. It shouldn't have to be anybody's experience.

3. It isn't everybody's experience.

[(Anonymous)]

Many women settle because they can't find a man who matches the criteria.

[(Anonymous)]

Many women settle because they're afraid they won't be able to find a man who matches the criteria.

Many women settle because our sexist af society has made them feel like maybe they don't really deserve a man who matches the criteria - like it's asking too much.

Many women settle because their dad treated their mom as less-then-equal, so they don't have a strong template of what to look for.

I don't judge any of these women. They're trying. This shit is tough. Tougher than it should be, I'll absolutely give OP that.

[(Anonymous)]

Many women also aren't perfect themselves and don't necessarily have the moral high ground.

[(Anonymous)]

Goodness no. I'm sorry you think that. My husband is definitely one of them. He was a good and considerate lover when we met and sex was good. Now, ten years later when we really know each other, sex is absolutely amazing.

respects that his partner doesn't always want sex when he does

Well, isn't that a bit odd to assume a man wants to have sex more than a woman? Most women I know, including me, always want sex.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, isn't that a bit odd to assume a man wants to have sex more than a woman?

Regardless of how much sex a woman wants, there are going to be times when he wants sex and she doesn't. And IMO men are more likely to have a problem with that than women are, in the case of the roles being reversed.

Most women I know, including me, always want sex.

Fair enough. Most of the women I know, including me, have significantly lower sex drives than our male partners. No one experience is universal, obviously.

[(Anonymous)]

That's your expectation talking. It's been my universal experience to the contrary, you just gotta know how to pick 'em.