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It’s warming up where I am, which makes sleeping under heaps of blankets a sweaty ordeal, but I wake up in the middle of the night a lot more often if I’m only under a light blanket or a sheet. Anyone have a weighted blanket? Does it help you sleep better? Can they be machine washed and dried? Anyone have brand recs or ones to avoid?

I definitely find his face attractive, but body-wise he's not my type. It's not really obvious as long as he keeps his clothes on though lol

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Ack wtf. No idea how that ended up there.

I just want to have people to play board games. My coworkers are not interested at all. :(

What kind of board games?

The ones I got are Codenames, Betrayal on the House on the Hill, Coup, and Double Feature.

A local games shop might have board games nights, or even a local pub - unfortunately this DOES mean you have to take the first steps and put yourself out there and all that agonising shit, but it's worth checking out.
Good luck!

You... go out and talk to people? Like IDK what sort of answer you're expecting here, there's only one way to make friends and that's by interacting with other people and discovering shared interests.

through hobbies. sometimes going out.

tbh even if gaming stores or arcades have groups, I would never join one because I'm not looking for gamers. I'm more interested in people who are fun to hang out with, who I get along with, who happen to say yes when I ask if they wanna do a board game night. honestly, most of my good friends I met through a sewing and knitting group, but we're all nerds at heart, we're just not gamers.

I am a loser with an unattractive face who's older and it's difficult making friends! I get treated like I'm contagious.

As another unattractive older loser who’s shit at making and keeping friends, I don’t think my being unattractive has much to do with why I’m shit at friendship. I just suck at people skills. Which is probably also most of the reason I don’t have a significant other, either—my (lack of) looks don’t help in the romance department, but ugly people aren’t generally at a disadvantage when making friends compared to good-looking ones.

AYRT

People don't like to hang out with "unattractive" people. Men especially don't like to hang out with unattractive women, even as friends.

I have difficulty with this too.

I think the easiest way is probably to check out various social meet-ups in your area. Just any kind of group activity you're at all interested it. The down side is, you may still struggle to turn "group" friends into friends you hang out with outside the group. However, it's a start. (I realize this is a lot easier for people who live in bigger cities, but I think smaller cities still probably have a few group meet-ups to pick from.)

Beyond that, I...don't really know. I think insecurity holds a lot of us back from making more friends, tbh. Feeling like we're not desirable as "friends material" and like if we ask someone if they want to hang out with us they won't really want to and will feel uncomfortable. That's definitely something I struggle with, and I don't really have any advice for other people struggling with it, except to take any opportunities you are given to hang out with people, and to make sure those people know you'd be up for hanging out again (presuming you do end up liking them), and that they have whatever contact information you're comfortable with giving them.

nayrt

I think you hit the nail on the head.

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