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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2019-07-14 03:26 pm

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Re: Vent thread

[personal profile] philstar22 2019-07-14 09:16 pm (UTC)(link)
She does it whether we comfort her or not. She does it because she wants to go out on the porch. It is just something she does. My mother wants me to completely ignore her when she makes any sort of remotely whiny sounds. I don't think that's reasonable.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2019-07-14 09:20 pm (UTC)(link)
It's fine if that's your personal preference. But on this occasion, your mom is correct in that ignoring behavior you don't want repeated is the way to train a cat or dog properly. It'd be one thing if your cat was whining because she's unsafe, uncomfortable, etc. but that's not the case from what you've said. Any time you reinforce the whining with positive behavior (cuddling, letting the cat on the porch, positive attention), the cat learns that whining is good and effective.
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Re: Vent thread

[personal profile] philstar22 2019-07-14 09:24 pm (UTC)(link)
It is possible. It seems to me like it hasn't worked so far and like toy distraction would be a better thing to try. But since I don't want my cat to be kicked out, and my mother has threatened to do that, I do what my mother wants.

Honestly, really I'm mostly just pissed off about the threat.
Edited 2019-07-14 21:24 (UTC)

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2019-07-14 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
I guess it depends on how you're reacting in the moment. If distracting her with a toy when she's whining works, well, it works because you've given her something she wants in response to the whining. That won't stop the whining... just the opposite. You've taught her that whining = something nice.

Unfortunately, training is a big pain in the ass, it takes a long time, and it MUST be consistent (you and everyone else in your house who interacts with your cat have to do it the proper way every time) or it won't work. But yeah, sounds like you're stuck so long as you're not living independently from your parents.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2019-07-15 12:16 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, this. It's one thing if the cat is whining because she needs something or is in distress, but if she's just doing it for attention, you absolutely do not want to reward that.