[ SECRET POST #4625 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4625 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Star Trek: Enterprise]


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[Horatio Hornblower]


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Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

"He'll literally sit there and watch me work (because I'm so CUTE he HAS to watch me!)"

That would drive me nuts. I HATE going about my life with an audience.

"If a task is a chore, I want it done quickly and efficiently and I hate it when other people dawdle and make a mess out of things."

This is one where I might have issues similar to your husband. I get tired of doing the same thing after a while, so I don't like start a chore if that means having to commit to finishing it. I'm the type who will do a few dishes and then go off to do something else.

My mom is a very "start what you finish" person, and we've had arguments about it.

So I usually do chores while she's out - I'll do half the dishes, go do something else (another chore, or just mess around online or whatever) and then a few minutes later I'll go do the rest of the dishes. And all she knows is that they're done when she gets back. No stress.

I don't know if something like that will work for you guys, given the thing of making the mess worse sometimes, but possibly could in regard to the issue of not doing things the efficient way.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I used to not mind it, but now I hate it. I hate doing all the work while he sits there (or worse, gets in the way) and watches me without helping. I used to ask him nicely to please step out of the way, or to please go to the living room while I finish up and he'd sort of mock-protest about how he just wants to waaaaatch me. Now I get snarly and tell him to stop staring or GTFO.

The thing with the dishes is that we don't have a large kitchen or a lot of dishes/pots. So I need the dishes done and the sink empty BEFORE I start food preparation. My husband has the bad habit of starting them, then wandering off leaving ME with a sink of greasy cold water and some dirty dishes. Or he'll want to wash them when I start doing food prep, which means we're both crowding into the same space, with me trying to find utensils and pots that are still dirty, etc. I had to tell him many, many times that if he hasn't done the dishes by the time I need to get dinner ready, he can't start them. I'LL do them, because I need it done fast and I don't want to constantly trip over someone else trying to do them. I told him that this is fine, I don't mind washing dishes but what I'd really like is for HIM to EMPTY the dish rack and put them away. He can do this early in the morning when I'm asleep, because he wakes up a lot earlier than I do.

What did I get? Years of him never emptying the dish rack and then wanting to start doing dishes at 5:30pm while I'm preparing dinner, then looking all confused when I snap at him and tell him to GTFO. We've fallen into a pattern where I end up doing everything because it pisses me off to have his clumsy, slow "help".