[ SECRET POST #4625 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4625 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Star Trek: Enterprise]


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[Horatio Hornblower]


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Comments

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[tabaqui]

What anon above said. He's manipulating you and he *knows* it, to an extent. This is just like my ex, who never did chores or cleaning or anything for the 30 years we were married, because a) i would do it and b) it was easier to do it than fight. Now that he's remarried? Suddenly he knows how to do laundry and clean and shop and whatnot.

Yeah, he needs a real 'come to Jesus' moment and you need to set hard boundaries re: chores/housework and stick to 'em.

And however difficult it would be, sometimes a divorce is the best thing. I know i'm much happier now than I was.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes I'm tempted to pack my shit and go back to my parents' house for a couple weeks and let him fend for himself. I've told him he's damaged and continues to damage our marriage. I don't know if he really gets that.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[tabaqui]

To be frank, he probably never will, because you let him basically run over you and guilt you. NOT saying 'this is all on you' but he *will* continue to do as little as you let him get away with.

Those articles anon mentioned are a good thing for him to read, and maybe they will help. Maybe a couple weeks apart will help. Maybe you'll realize you like it better on your own.

I hope you can find a way forward that makes you happy, Anon.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I've let him get away with shit for far too long, because I told myself that I loved him and that I didn't want him to feel bad. I'm done with that and told him so. I hope he feels like shit.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[tabaqui]

It's what we do - sacrifice our own feelings so nobody else feels bad, and that's just utterly unfair.

*hugs*