[ SECRET POST #4625 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4625 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Horatio Hornblower]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 15 secrets from Secret Submission Post #662.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

You say a divorce would make you unhappy.

But another way to look at this is, this problem is already affecting you. Enough to make you go on a forum and post things like, "even the best of men are crappy," even though surely there must be men out there who can be functional adults and partners, or happy couples with stay-at-home dads would be fictional, clean freak men wouldn't exist, and every gay male couple would need women around living with them 24/7.

In b4 "lol #notallmen!!!" because that's actually not my point here.

My point is, having to deal with this behavior all the time from your husband is might be affecting you more than you realize, in that it's turning you into the kind of person you probably don't want to be, either. Someone who feels burdened by being Mommy 2.0, who doesn't believe people could be better, who thinks they should be forever alone with a cat, and thinks half the world is at best crappy. That's not what you wanted to be, is it? And staying married will probably push you further down that path.

If it took you years to get him to shower regularly, which is something I promise you most normal married men know how to do, your husband sounds especially worse than most. So does this have hope? How much will you change and become embittered in the years it might take for something to change?

Is that worth doing, over a divorce?

What if nothing changes and it ends up in a divorce, anyway?

Isn't that how serious this is?

Does he realize how serious that is?

Because he needs to.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

This is a good post.

There's definitely a happy medium between being not a jerk, and not denying reality or your feelings. You shouldn't feel like you can't express your views or god forbid someone react so badly.