[ SECRET POST #4854 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4854 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Joe Dirt]


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03.
[Kael'thas Sunstrider, World of Warcraft Shadowlands expansion]


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04.
[Father Brown Mysteries]


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05.
[Xena: Warrior Princess]


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06.
[The Untamed]


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07.
[BAND-MAID]


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08.
[Kingdom Hearts]


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09.
[Tiger King]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 41 secrets from Secret Submission Post #694.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I’m ace, disabled, not well-off, and 32. In an ideal world, I’d like to have a child. It makes me quite sad that it’s just not in the cards for me.

But I wholeheartedly agree with this secret. I feel like even if you’re someone who kind of wants children and just probably can’t have them, it’s still incredibly valuable to have depictions of both childless and child-free women, who are admirable, who lead complete lives, and who aren’t unhappy (or, if they are unhappy, their unhappiness isn’t attributed largely to their lack of children).

Fiction can be incredibly valuable in its ability to validate, but also, in its ability to show us a way forwards, so to speak.

It’s something Jane Fonda said about her show Grace and Frankie - that she gets so many letter from women of all ages, telling her that her show has helped them to "see a way forward." In Fonda’s case, what they’ve seen is a way forwards into growing old, as women, in society, without feeling like they’re sinking inexorably into irrelevance.

But I think there’s so many ways that fiction can help us see a way forwards. And I’d really love to see more child-free and childless women in the media, because I think it would help me to not be afraid of my own future as someone who never had children. (As well as validating the people who know they don’t want children and just wish the world would back them up on that a little, because fuck yeah, that too.)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm aro, disabled, not well-off, and 35. I've been clear with the idea that I never want to be pregnant, never want to raised kids, since roughly puberty, and that I'd better stay single since early adulthood.
And the freaking social worker in charge of helping autistic adults getting a job in the "normal" world... flat-out told me that I should have kids "it'll help me sort out my life"
I'm at a loss for words.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Wow, fuck them.

[(Anonymous)]

I can't tell if this is in response to my post or just in addition to it. But wow, that's really fucked up. One has to wonder if that woman has kids herself, if she actually believes that. Or has ever spent more then ten minutes around a kid, for that matter. Like, what does she think they are, Tamagotchis? O_o

[(Anonymous)]

da

Right? Does she not think kids should have parents who have their shit together (or at least are trying) AND actually want to raise a kid?

Not sure if the lady is a parent, but I wish people would quit criticizing or pressuring others into decisions because they can't function unless they get validation about their own.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT I *think* that she's under the delusion that what my executive dysfunction prevents me from doing for myself, I'll pull myself by the bootstraps and force myself to do fOR mY BaBYYY.
To which I say: NO.

[resnullius_bells]

Seconding the anon above: fuck them. WTF.

And the whole "a kid will help you sort out your life"? I think people should go into having children thinking that they want to take care of another human being, not expecting THEM to fix their lives FFS.

[(Anonymous)]

Another DA

Precisely.

Infants and children aren't shrinks.
They won't cure you of your zits.
They can't save any relationships you happen to be in.
They can't get rid of crappy weather.
They aren't good luck charms.

They just simply happen to be children, that's all.