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fandomsecrets2020-07-03 06:37 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2020-07-03 06:37 pm
[ SECRET POST #4928 ]
⌈ Secret Post #4928 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Emma 2020, OP warned for male nudity (from the back)]
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[Star Wars Expanded Universe, resized]
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[365 Days, OP warned for image of a dub/non-con sexual situation]
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07. [SPOILERS for Far Cry 5 and Far Cry New Dawn]
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08. [SPOILERS for The Magnus Archives]
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09. [WARNING for sexual assault]
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10. [WARNING for discussion of transphobia]
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Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-04 10:13 pm (UTC)(link)See, this is the issue: you tell me to stop whining about people not explaining, after I literally said that I have heard all the explanations and still can't agree. You, and others in this thread, are repeating the same five talking points to shut down a different conversation than the one I and OP are trying to have.
Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-04 10:35 pm (UTC)(link)Saying "pregnant women" is not the issue here. "Pregnant women" are pregnant women. I am not saying you have to stop talking about women that are pregnant, but acknowledging that trans people exist and can be pregnant and ALSO not women is literally the bare fucking minimum you can do to be an ally. Including us in your language is the bare minimum but you wanna fight tooth and nail over it as if this is somehow a huge burden to you.
What JKR, a literal billionaire, was offended by was one article that read "people who menstruate." She came back and said "UhHhHH don't they mean WoMeN???" when she knows damn well they wrote what they wrote for a reason.
If you don't care about being a trans ally just say that & stop trying to justify your transphobic arguments as anything but. Stop telling me I am the ignorant one because I can't do a trans 101 in a way that is palatable to you.
And since I am talking about semantics, how can you know that Rowling is not?
I made the distinction between semantics and inclusion purposefully. PURPOSEFULLY. To illustrate that it is semantics to you and to her but not to trans people.
As numerous people have pointed out in threads on this exact secret, she has demonstrated time and time again that she does not give a fuck about trans women. She follows accounts that are trans-exclusionary, likes tweets from other TERFs, deleted her nice tweet about Stephen King once he released one that said "trans women are women" and has shown her ass all over the internet by releasing a 3000 word essay on trans people which no cis person has any business doing, PERIOD.
I'm gonna say that again: NO CIS PERSON has ANY BUSINESS releasing a 3000 WORD ESSAY questioning the validity of trans people, or how we talk about ourselves, PERIOD. I know y'all don't like to hear this but this is not your community. This is not about you. You are not the expert.
How can you know that I was insecure about my gender? (I never was, ftr, even if I would have been enby by the definitions I've found)
Ffs, because YOU TOLD ME THAT. I was responding to the part of your comment where YOU SAID you may have thought you were non-binary as a child if you had been exposed to the non-binary community and telling you that this would not have been a terrible thing. Guess what? If you actually weren't non-binary, which you aren't by your own admission, you would have arrived at that conclusion yourself anyway. I mean, you've seen those definitions now and they didn't turn you non-binary now, did they?? Jesus Christ I need a nap.
Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-05 12:22 am (UTC)(link)Yes, and here's my problem with this discourse: it's not enough to acknowledge that trans men/enbies can have female bodies. We're asked to change the way we speak about a uniquely female (bodied) experience ("people who menstruate") so as not to "alienate" the small percentage who identify otherwise, and whose identity as trans/enby is DEFINED by the fact that their identities defy their biologies. I have no problems with acknowledging that some girls don't menstruate or that some boys DO, or that some men can, in fact, get pregnant. My problem is that I'm a 'phobe because I think this particular brand of inclusive language is a ridiculous hill to die on compared to the actual violence perpetrated against trans people.
I'm not saying that you're ignorant, but that you don't seem to understand what I'm trying to talk about. I've stated TWICE that I've followed these debates and that I still haven't been convinced by the arguments I'm presented - you don't have to do the trans 101, I've heard it already. My issue isn't with trans people, as I hope I've made clear. It's with the way any voice questioning ANY claim made by the louder side of the trans community is automatically shut down as a transphobe.
To illustrate that it is semantics to you and to her but not to trans people.
Not to nitpick, but your words were that "Rowling takes issue with the inclusion, not the semantics."
NO CIS PERSON has ANY BUSINESS releasing a 3000 WORD ESSAY questioning the validity of trans people, or how we talk about ourselves, PERIOD.
I agree. So when trans activists wants to dictate how we talk about an experience that is uniquely female ("people who menstruate"), I hope you see why a good amount of cis women take issue with this.
YOU SAID you may have thought you were non-binary as a child if you had been exposed to the non-binary community
Fair enough, my bad. The thing I failed to communicate was that my issue never was with my gender, but with gender roles that I despised and to this day find highly problematic. But by god, there was at least one high-profile article explaining what makes a person enby, and she/they described an discomfort with gender roles and relative comfort with femininty that followed my own almost to the letter. By her/their definition, I absolutely WOULD have been enby back then, even if I never once felt discomfort as a girl, only with society's idea of what a girl was supposed to be. I find that definition to be HIGHLY questionable - not just for enby people whose issues run rather deeper than "ooooh but I don't like girly things", but for a number of girls whose ideas of womanhood grow only narrower for it.
Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-05 04:06 am (UTC)(link)YES, EXACTLY. Exactly this. Yes. You are asked this.
So when trans activists wants to dictate how we talk about an experience that is uniquely female ("people who menstruate"), I hope you see why a good amount of cis women take issue with this.
Lol, no. This experience is "uniquely female" but it is not uniquely an experience of cis women. Because there are trans people with, to use your words, female bodies. So no, we're not coming in to a community to which we don't belong and telling them how to refer to themselves, we're correcting the language of a community to which we do belong, and how others are referring to us.
To be very blunt, I have a uterus too and you don't fucking speak for me. Just how I am not saying you can't call yourself a pregnant woman or even refer to problems unique to pregnant women. That is fine. You can do that. But when you say "women" and really mean "people who menstruate" you are not being an ally to us because you are discounting us. That's why I say, including us with your language in this way (something you view merely as 'semantics') actually has much more far-reaching implications towards how other cis people like you view us.
Yes, we are a relatively "small percentage" who identify as otherwise. But making this slight change in your language literally hurts you none, whereas refusing to do so contributes to the myth that trans people are defined by our biology, that anyone AFAB will forevermore be a woman and people who are women and people who menstruate are synonymous, which they are not, even for cis women.
there was at least one high-profile article explaining what makes a person enby, and she/they described an discomfort with gender roles and relative comfort with femininty that followed my own almost to the letter. By her/their definition, I absolutely WOULD have been enby back then
It... doesn't work that way. The only reason this person is non-binary is by their own definition. So no, you would not be non-binary "by their own definition." You get to define your gender, that's kind of the whole point. Only you know what's right for you just how they only know what's right for them. For fuck's sake it's not a one-size-fits-all diagnostic test.
Also, this? a ridiculous hill to die on compared to the actual violence perpetrated against trans people. Fuck off with this. Talk to me about violence against trans people when you've seen a trans woman beaten within an inch of her life by a gang with a bike lock in a women's bathroom. 4 trans women have been killed in the last couple months. You don't get to talk to me about violence against trans people and you sure as hell don't get to imply that this is the only trans issue I care about.
Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-04 11:01 pm (UTC)(link)Especially because there are people elsewhere in this thread arguing that puberty blockers, which give kids time to think over (and be counseled! By professionals who do this for a living!) whether they want to medically transition or not, and how much medical stuff they want to do when they're old enough, are dangerous. But without blockers, medically transitioning is more work, and maybe more dangerous, than with them, so maybe they should rethink this transitioning stuff.
Which ends up sounding like all the "it's a phase" stuff that gets thrown around about sexuality and is controlling bullshit.
Also, I honestly don't understand the furor over "people who menstruate" as a descriptor. It's accurate, doesn't leave anyone out or include anyone who doesn't need that info, and is exactly the kind of language that professional organizations doing work in reproductive healthcare should be using.
It's not some kind of dig at cis women aimed at making us less special, it really isn't. It's just a succinct, accurate way of referring to a group with the same medical concerns.
Also, I am in my 30s and I'm pretty sure there will be pregnant trans women, via uterine implants, within my lifetime. Maybe trans women who menstruate, too. I can't imagine why anyone would chose to menstruate if they had the option not to, but I don't have to understand since it doesn't effect me at all.
anon she replied to
(Anonymous) 2020-07-04 11:14 pm (UTC)(link)T H A N K Y O U.
Re: nayrt OR ayrt
(Anonymous) 2020-07-05 01:03 am (UTC)(link)I DO understand why a lot of trans people react to that with spikes out, since - yeah, concern trolling and all the bad arguments used against any out-group by their parents. But, well - as someone who thinks gender roles are bull, I definitely don't think we're moving in the right direction when the definition of nonbinary is "someone who finds gender roles oppressive".
It's not that I argue about the "people who menstruate" thing IRL, but I find it to be fundamentally uncessary all the time every person over the age of ten knows that menstruation is function of the female body. Trans men and afab enbies will KNOW if is information that applies to them, and they'll KNOW that their bodies are women's bodies. It's not that I see it as an attack at (cis) women, but it comes across as some weird kind of erasure. Particularly, I think, when it gets to the topic of pregnancy and childbirth, which ultimately are the source of the majority of traditions and cultural expectations defining womanhood.