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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2020-11-04 06:53 pm

[ SECRET POST #5052 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5052 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2020-11-05 07:01 am (UTC)(link)
Knowing a lot of gay men in fandom, there are as many who will tell you that calling top/bottom dynamics homophobic is homophobic because contrary to what is required belief of the woke, a lot of gay men have that dynamic in their real relationships. Denying that some gay people fit stereotypes is peak respectability politics.

(Anonymous) 2020-11-05 11:11 am (UTC)(link)
It's almost like different gay men have different opinions on the matter and it's not up to fandom to decide what's "woke" or not for them.

(Anonymous) 2020-11-05 02:51 pm (UTC)(link)
NAYRT: +100 There's a big difference between being gay/bi and claiming those roles, vs. how those roles are the basis for a lot of real-world homophobic and gender-policing abuse. And that includes how often anal sex is framed in terms of humiliation play. So I'd be a lot less suspicious of straight people getting off on gay sex if it wasn't for their peers openly saying that gay sex feminizes me to a degree that I deserve abuse for it.

And there are some pretty complex discussions about sex and gender from gay/bi men who point out and call out bottom stereotypes and bottom-shaming.

(Anonymous) 2020-11-05 03:06 pm (UTC)(link)
I specifically said the excessive arguing over who tops/bottoms in a ship is weird, creepy and skirts into hetronormative homophobia, ie: who is 'the girl', not writing top/bottom in general.

For gods sake if you have a preference then just read that or write it, it's telling OTHER people what they should be writing, based off of really uncomfortable arguments, is when it crosses the line. And when it's largely straight women doing this? Weird and homophobic.

(Anonymous) 2020-11-06 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
For gods sake if you have a preference then just read that or write it, it's telling OTHER people what they should be writing, based off of really uncomfortable arguments, is when it crosses the line.

This. And that includes these really weird assumptions about the motives of people who write switching. I mean, switching exists? It's common? A lot of people like it? It's so weird to say that they must be doing it out of a desire to seem "woke" and not the obvious Occam's Razor idea that - that's just what they like.