[ SECRET POST #5139 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5139 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Pixar SparkShorts "Out"]


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[Sanders Sides]


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[Fire Force]


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[Undertale and Deltarune]


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[Geoff and Reilly from Headgum (YouTube and Podcasting)]


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[The Titan's Bride]














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Comments

Re: Vent thread

[sparklywalls]

I discovered this week (through witnessing a conversation where I could read half of it but knew that half was missing) that my auntie has blocked me on social media. I don't even know what I did, she just deleted and blocked me some point over the past few weeks...no interaction at all.

I know she blocked me because the conversation was on my sister's Facebook page and weirdly my auntie didn't think to block my husband as well...so he could see her comments and confirm it was her talking in the missing half of the conversation.

I'm just...I don't even know what I did? I'm trying to not let it bother me but it kinda does when family does something like that and don't even offer you a chance to say sorry for whatever you did?

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I had an old friend do something similar recently. And just like you, I don't know what I did. We hadn't spoken in a couple of years, but we regularly liked each other's posts. Then one day Facebook shows me her as a 'person you might know'. I thought I might have accidentally clicked something I didn't mean to (I'm always doing shit like that), so I sent her a friend request. A couple of weeks later I searched for her and couldn't even see her account so I guess I was blocked.

It's really bothering me. She was my best friend while I was a teenager and I don't know why!

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I know someone like this. I moved a lot and have lots of social media friends from various places all over, but there are a few who I thought were fairly close friends who ghosted not only me but other people they knew. There was no drama or anything and the interaction was always friendly likes or "congratulations!" when their kid graduated or whatever.

I think it's some weird kind of kon mari. Like, they aren't sentimental.

That or this person envies your life and seeing your post makes them hate their own. Could be that.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

da

I could have been that friend, except I had no friends in high school. But I do remember ghosting someone after they had a kid. And yes, it was some weird ass psychological projection on my part, mixed with self-loathing. Part of me assumed that coupled people with children don't mix with singles, because priorities are different and singles would become boring to couples/parents and vice versa (yes, I said ASSumed). That, and deep inside, I believed parents should be there for their kids and there should be no distractions. (It never occurred to me that, yes! Yes, parents/couples CAN find a balance between family and friends! I just assumed that was the end.) Not to mention, seeing these people the same age as me, having all their shit together when I was still struggling in an abusive home, so far behind everyone else, definitely made me feel inadequate.

Obviously, none of that is an excuse. But I just wanted to echo that it probably isn't you, it's is more than likely the other person if there was no drama.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks! I hope you're doing better now!

Re: Vent thread

[sparklywalls]

Ah man that would suck too, I can definitely relate to how you feel. I know folk say things like "maybe she deleted her account?" but you just don't know that, and the lack of contact even in that case wouldn't make me feel any better.

It just won't stop bothering me either even though I keep trying to think that if someone just deletes you like that without a word then that's on them and their issue, and I don't believe anyone has to be forced to keep you around. But it's still not great being on the receiving end going back through your feed thinking "but there's nothing here I said that was offensive? WHAT did I do?"

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

First anon who replied

That's exactly what I did, going back through my feed to see if there was anything that could be seen as offensive in any way.

It's not good on this side of things. Especially as there's no closure. It's always going to be one of those mysteries for me.

In your case though, is there anyone you can ask??

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Oof, I'm sorry, that sucks.

I doubt you did anything like this, but my roommate was telling me that after the (US presidential) election she was posting about how cool it was that we have a Black/Asian woman vice-president, and one of her oldest friends from I think grade school replied "what, that whore?" and my roommate blocked her and then went on a blocking spree of everyone who'd liked her friend's comment.

Maybe you guys don't see eye to eye about politics or something anymore.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you made a comment somewhere (likely politics or Covid related in these times) that she disagreed with. Or maybe you didn't do anything at all. Some people just overreact to imagined slights, it happens more often than you'd think.