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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2021-09-19 04:00 pm

[ SECRET POST #5371 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5371 ⌋

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Re: Vent

(Anonymous) 2021-09-20 12:44 am (UTC)(link)
I don't see it as a moral failing, but I do see it as a problem if it happens repeatedly.

"you can very easily say no. they're not snatching the food from your mouth"

Hmm... well, here's the thing. Not everyone is brought up to believe they are allowed to set boundaries, or that they aren't responsible for someone else's inability to act, so I would not assume that someone "can very easily say no."

OP is venting. They are resentful of something. Perhaps you should let them vent.

Re: Vent

(Anonymous) 2021-09-20 01:48 am (UTC)(link)
Not everyone is brought up to believe they are allowed to set boundaries

This is bullshit. Nobody is so isolated that they're unaware that the ability to say no exists, and the fact that other people routinely do so. Everyone knows they can say no, and if it's harder for them because of their upbringing, I get it because I'm in the same boat, but I can still do it.

Re: Vent

(Anonymous) 2021-09-20 03:46 am (UTC)(link)
A lot of people hate to see another person go hungry and ALSO, it's considered rude to eat in front of someone who's hungry, which is why we don't go have picnics on the pavement in front of homeless rough sleepers.

So yes, passing on a meal and then asking for someone else's is entitled and taking advantage of their manners and good nature.

Re: Vent

(Anonymous) 2021-09-20 05:07 am (UTC)(link)
Clearly, you don't get it. And don't diminish other people's struggles by calling something bullshit, just because YOU personally succeeded at something.

Nobody said that saying no is impossible to do. They just said it isn't easy. I trust you know the difference.