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Re: how to make friends as an adult?

[(Anonymous)]

I know the answer we're all looking for is a practical one, i.e. what things can we actively do and what places can we go to make friends? But I've come to think that the more incisive answer is something along the lines of, "Develop better self-esteem so that we present ourselves as being open to opportunities of friendship when they're right in front of us."

I feel like most adults who don't have many friends and don't know how to go about making more are people who have a strong underlying belief that people will find them too weird, annoying, pathetic, or otherwise just kind of a burden to spend time with. So we keep to ourselves and kind of subtly project a sense of being slightly closed off, socially. Whereas the people I know who make friends easily, it's because they have no problem inviting others to spend time with them. Their default is to see themselves as not a burden or an annoyance or a loser, but a person that someone else might actually want to be friends with.

Unfortunately, developing better self-esteem is a tough one. I definitely haven't figured it out yet. :/

Re: how to make friends as an adult?

[(Anonymous)]

I agree that this is a major component of the problem (although it's definitely, definitely not the whole problem).

Something I feel like I struggle with a lot is just figuring out what kind of friend-relationships I even want, and then communicating and figuring out how to do the kinds of socializing that I actually enjoy.