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[ SECRET POST #5463 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5463 ⌋

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I think my taste in music is better than most people’s. I am fully aware that art is subjective, but for some reason, when it comes to music, the judgy part of my brain is like, Subjective shmubjective! I have better taste in music than most people!

I would say you come off as snobby and self-superior if you said this out loud to anyone, or judged someone else’s music taste simply because you didn’t like their faves. But as an inner thought, or a secret in this case, it’s not abnormal to feel prideful about your taste in music. Not everyone feels that way, for sure.

I’m an example of not feeling that way all the time. I just like the music that I like, normally. But I admit that sometimes I do feel more favorable about my own taste when someone else is outwardly smug about their own taste, or blusters about being “such a music fan on an almost spiritual level” when they only listen to one genre. I’m not proud of thinking this way during these times, but I do feel that it’s a natural reaction to someone being condescending and/or haughty, regardless of whether these thoughts make me just as immature.

That's uh.. why it's a secret pal.

I know. That’s why I said it’s fine as a secret in like, the second sentence. I was just saying that it’s nothing to be ashamed of, like some people seem to think they should be about their secrets. And relating my personal experiences to OP/you(I don’t know if you’re a different anon or not) instead of just saying “same”. Because it’s not always “same”, but I can still relate.

I’m not saying my reply was absolutely necessary, but most replies technically aren’t either unless it’s an answer to a question. And your reply stating something that you didn’t even have to read that far in to know I’ve already acknowledged is especially unnecessary. Saying “that’s why it’s a secret, pal” would only really make sense if I said “you sound snobby and self-superior” and left it at that. With no acknowledgement that it’s a secret or that the feelings of superiority over musical taste aren’t being spoken out loud to people. I know I have a tendency to ramble, but there’s no point in replying back to me if you can’t even read my comment. Reading and replying back isn’t mandatory if you don’t want to.

Yeah, I'm a different anon than the secret's op. I get really annoyed when people treat this space for fandom secrets as if it's a soap box on which we stand to proudly proclaim ourselves publicly. The things here are supposed to be a little shameful, a little guilty. And folks like you holding this self expression to the... idk... rigid rules of our privacy-free society is so annoying and smothering I can't stand it sometimes. And no, adding a ton of other text doesn't really help, does it? I feel like my handful of snotty words in the post you're replying too expressed myself better than this.

NAYRT

>>I get really annoyed when people treat this space for fandom secrets as if it's a soap box on which we stand to proudly proclaim ourselves publicly.
>>And folks like you holding this self expression to the... idk... rigid rules of our privacy-free society is so annoying and smothering I can't stand it sometimes.

What do you mean? I don't get anything smothering from AYRT's comment. They simply said "Same, but as long as you don't say it outloud you're fine".
Am I too dense to get why you're so upset? Am I missing something?
What kind of reply are you expecting from these secrets? I'm genuinely curious here. No judging.

Ayart, the bitchy one

Here's the thing. I don't remember any of the post but the opening line. Idk if I read the whole thing or just saw "I would say you come off as snobby and self-superior if you said this out loud to anyone, or..." and didn't want to read 2 nore phone screens of the same, goodness knows it wouldn't be the first time I wasted minutes of my life. I also could have read it and it just made no impact because I s2g I read the reply 3x and none of it is sticking. A vague sense of "Explain why you don't understand my point" maybe?

But no, yeah, I won't ever remember and I couldn't convince anyone either way.

AYRT

No problem, nonny. Thanks for the reply.

There’s literally no part of my reply that treated anything like rules or a soapbox. I don’t know if you’re aware, but sentences that start with “I...” are usually opinions. Opinions can maybe be soapboxing(they absolutely aren’t in this case), but they’re definitely not rules. It’s fine if you don’t want to read(or retain I guess) my post. But you’ve made more of a smarmy asshole out of yourself than anyone here by making a snap judgment based on the first sentence alone. And one clearly based on nothing, considering you’ve only put words in my mouth of what you somehow assume I’m saying. You haven’t said one thing about my comments that was right.

And maybe more words didn’t help, I already made clear that I’m aware of that being possible. But no, your short and bitchy comments didn’t express anything any better. They don’t express anything well at all. It turns out you’re just wasting my time and yours with your nonsense. If you can’t bother to read or try understand what other people are saying, then I don’t get why you feel the need to say anything at all. Other than because you’re a dick of course.

SA

If you’re not getting any of my comments, then just ignore the last one and forget about all this. I guess it was some kind of weird-ass misunderstanding??

I'm the secret poster, and I didn't take offense to your comment. I'm not the anon upthread. I don't have time to reply further rn, but just, yeah, not sure what that anon's problem was.

I understand, thanks for clarifying!

Could be, but who knows?
For me personally a good taste in music is liking and listening to a lot of different genres from different times and coutries.
I don't think I have an excellent taste in music, but I love that I regularly listen to Indie Rock, Classic Rock, Folk, Italian songwriters, Scandinavian Metal, Japanese Rock/Pop, Russian Rap/Indie Rock, Classical Music (esp. Stravinskij, Čajkovskij, Verdi, Mozart), Death Metal, "comedic" Songs (ex. Burnham, Aurelio Voltaire, Crazy ex Girlfriend's OST), Musical OST, Movie/Game/TV Shows OST, Vaporwave, etc etc
I'm not a music expert, since I've never studied the theory and can't play a single instrument, so I can't really tell if my taste in music is excellent or awful but I really like listening to music.
My judgy side think that people who listen to only a single or a very limited range of music genres (even if it's the "BEST" "got the highest artistic value" genres) and refuse to explore further do actually have very bad taste.
I actually think the same about people that only read a certain type of books or watch only "artistic" movies. Their taste could be excellent, but it's very limited, therefore I don't blindly trust their judgment or respect them more.

SA
With this ramble I just wanted to say: I get why it's a secret. I judge other people's taste to, maybe for different reasons than yours. And when I try to explain why I sound like a pretentious ass! /high five

DA

But I totally get this!

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