[ SECRET POST #5497 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5497 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

https://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/2549447.html?thread=1079351751#cmt1079351751

Untrue. Things like the example in this comment can and do happen without anyone violating "codes of conduct" or being rude in any way.

Good people can try their best and still be unsuitable and unhealthy for each other due to having disorders that build on each other in terrible ways without it being anyone's fault. That's just a reality, and you can't expect fandom organizers or community mods to be mental health professionals about this kind of thing.

[(Anonymous)]

you can still have rules on e.g. missing events that will weed out habitually forgetful members from events (like a time out on RSVPing) until they come up with a system to help them remember or accept participating in the group without that part of it, for example. boundaries can also encompass non-malicious or accidentally triggering behavior.

granted, this requires a mod team that has the capacity to let people be upset at them, and it requires members to be able to self soothe when they're upset/not take boundaries personally, and the latter in particular will naturally filter out a portion of people.

I don't blame OP for leaving, though, since it sounds like a poorly moderated group and a real stressful time.

[(Anonymous)]

I think sometimes there is extra frustration for that sort of boundary being perceived as "not inclusive" of those who have trouble with regular/timely attendance. It's a tightrope sometimes.