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⌈ Secret Post #5507 ⌋

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Re: Stuff You Don't Want to Google/Google isn't Helpful With

[(Anonymous)]

Does writing out a comment to ignorant assholes you know aren’t worth actually interacting with but not sending it really therapeutic? Does it help to get what you want to say out there enough that you don’t want to send it anymore? I’m phrasing these questions really strangely, sorry, but I don’t really know how to phrase them(hence why Google would be especially unhelpful).

I’m a grown ass adult who shouldn’t give in to the temptation to try to set people who clearly only believe what they want to believe straight. I know it’s healthier for me to just ignore it, especially because I wasn’t even part of the comment thread. I just happened upon it and know that this prick is completely wrong, and a complete misogynist. I know from experience that people like them wouldn’t listen, and would always find a way to keep believing the ignorant shit they want to believe. I hate arguing and debating either way, and I don’t think I’m any good at it either. I can speak eloquently when I want to(not that anyone would know that from this jumbled mess of a comment, and the eloquence is probably superficial anyways) and use evidence, but I always feel like I’m forgetting something or not doing a good enough job, even if I may look like a better person purely by comparison to bigots. Trying to debate is exhausting.

And I’m always kind of anxious of each response when I do interact with these people, because sometimes petty bullshit from these people still manages to get under my skin. Insults from them legitimately make me angry. Again, I’ve been a full grown adult for quite a while, and I’m still like this. I hate doing this so much, and always hope and pray someone else, someone better will do it for me. Will lay out all the points I would want to include, in a way I never could. So I have someone to support without getting directly involved. But when that doesn’t happen, the urge to jump in with the facts I know still gets to me, and I actively have to resist.

Back to the main problem/question: I’ve seen people(here, and in general) say that writing out a comment to frustrating and toxic people without sending it makes the urge go away, or at least get better. Like a modern version of that therapy tactic of writing a letter detailing all of your thoughts on someone with no intention of sending it. But does the comment version really work? The only reason I’m worried is that if I manage to type the whole thing out, and feel satisfied with it, I might want to send it even more. It’s so much easier to copy and paste and click send then take that physical letter to a mailbox.

Sorry, I know this was probably confusing as hell! This probably wouldn’t be such a problem or concern for me if I wasn’t such a screw-up lol.