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[ SECRET POST #5601 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5601 ⌋

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What kinds of kinks do people not realize are kinks?

I feel like I’m vaguely familiar with some of the other versions mentioned in this secret, but that one has me scratching my head.

I feel like this describes certain people on Deviantart in an era pre-2015, where they eventually find out that their interests are kinks once they find the right fan group collection on there.

People who think the "normal" way to do sex is male dom/female sub and refuse to tag their fics because they insist that without the trappings of BDSM it is just normal sex even when it absolutely is dom/sub sex.

I came here to say that.

There are even people who develop whole religious sects and political/lifestyle movements around that particular kink with absolutely no realization that what they see as the proper way to live is just a personal kink.

Not just M/F either. I've noticed it's become increasingly common to have BDSM elements in slash recently, with absolutely no warnings whatsoever, as if it is just assumed to be normal and expected and every reader would be OK with it.

Spoiler: we're not.

Smut with trans headcanon characters for example. A lot of people don't want to admit that their trans porn is, in fact, a kink/fetish thing and not some sort of high brow activism.

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Consider: for trans people who are writing porn with their trans headcanons, it can 100% be a kink thing (for values of kink that include "the kink of seeing bodies or identities like yours in porn") and can also be a way of validating trans readers, which isn't high brow activism or anything but is another real thing in addition to being something to get off to.

This.

ime as a trans person, it's pretty easy to tell the difference between "wanting to see bodies/identities like yours in porn" versus pure fetish fuel that is neither written by nor for people who are actually trans.

If you're comfortable, would you mind elaborating on how you can tell? I'm not trans, it's not a kink for me, but I do sometimes read porn with trans characters (canon or headcanon) because I like the ship they're in.

True.

everything about trans is a kink

This is pretty mediocre bait.

Instances I have encountered:

-untagged rimming
-untagged pee kink
-untagged D/s dynamics, where the writer claimed it was just "naturally" how this couple would do sex/live their lives (and not just M/f dynamics, either)
-people who insisted that writing Reylo as anything other than femdom/malesub was OOC and doing fandom wrong
-the person who who kept on and on about her femdom pegging kink involving the canon het love interest in a single-pairing m/m slash community
-someone who got actively angry when other people pointed out that writing het mpreg for someone who didn't ask for it might not be a great idea
-someone writing explicit incest for someone who didn't ask for it on a kinkmeme
-incest fans getting pissy when other people were upset by being surprised by father/son incest on said kinkmeme
-incest fans insisting that the only reason someone could have for not liking it was homophobia
-someone writing noncon for someone who expressly said they didn't want it in their kinkmeme prompt, and throwing a fit because they didn't consider what they had written to be noncon (the story involved one half of the couple holding the other down and fucking them while the other pleaded with them to stop).

wow those are definitely examples. also, yikes. idk what's worse, untagged watersports or "what do you mean that's noncon?"

this sounds like a really unfortunate kinkmeme to have so many terrible people. were all of these examples from the star wars fandom?

No, Pacific Rim.

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There are a lot of people out there who don't seem to realize that their noncon kink is a kink.

Oh fuck yes, this.

As someone who has non-con as one their favorite kinks, that’s really crazy and I’m glad I’ve been lucky enough to never run into these people. I wouldn’t even know what to say to someone who thinks it’s not a kink, that’s so weird.

In mainstream literature - teen girls. Girls that specifically turned 18 a day before. I've seen it a lot in Sci-fi.

A blackmail, kinda. A guy saves a girl, she feels like she has to sleep with him. A girl wants something from a guy, maybe money, or she's a spy looking to extract information. A girl needing protection that a marriage can offer. She's pressured by society to marry. A girl is a cat ear slave who doesn't have much choice. A nice guy plot where he saves a girl from a bad love interest. Sense and Sensibility has it. I feel like all of these is some reluctance/ power imbalance kinks.

Not exactly a kink, but I used to follow an author who was polyamorous and in an open relationship IRL and disingenuously acted as if this was a "normal" way of living that everyone should be open to, including when characters did it in fic. She wrote a lot of PWP porn fic of a canonly very happily married character with someone other than his wife, and someone once told her it felt OOC because he would never want to cheat on his wife. She went off about how wasn't it obvious that he isn't cheating in these fics, because obviously his wife knows about it and trusts him to have sex with other people without it meaning he loves her any less. No, none of that was obvious because the fics were pure porn and nothing of the sort was mentioned one way or the other!

just ran into a tickling fetish blog that claimed to be all ages, so that comes to mind immediately.

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