[ SECRET POST #5601 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5601 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

Okay.

[(Anonymous)]

What kinds of kinks do people not realize are kinks?

I feel like I’m vaguely familiar with some of the other versions mentioned in this secret, but that one has me scratching my head.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like this describes certain people on Deviantart in an era pre-2015, where they eventually find out that their interests are kinks once they find the right fan group collection on there.

[(Anonymous)]

People who think the "normal" way to do sex is male dom/female sub and refuse to tag their fics because they insist that without the trappings of BDSM it is just normal sex even when it absolutely is dom/sub sex.

[babydraco]

I came here to say that.

There are even people who develop whole religious sects and political/lifestyle movements around that particular kink with absolutely no realization that what they see as the proper way to live is just a personal kink.

[(Anonymous)]

Not just M/F either. I've noticed it's become increasingly common to have BDSM elements in slash recently, with absolutely no warnings whatsoever, as if it is just assumed to be normal and expected and every reader would be OK with it.

Spoiler: we're not.

[(Anonymous)]

Smut with trans headcanon characters for example. A lot of people don't want to admit that their trans porn is, in fact, a kink/fetish thing and not some sort of high brow activism.

[(Anonymous)]

+100

[(Anonymous)]

Instances I have encountered:

-untagged rimming
-untagged pee kink
-untagged D/s dynamics, where the writer claimed it was just "naturally" how this couple would do sex/live their lives (and not just M/f dynamics, either)
-people who insisted that writing Reylo as anything other than femdom/malesub was OOC and doing fandom wrong
-the person who who kept on and on about her femdom pegging kink involving the canon het love interest in a single-pairing m/m slash community
-someone who got actively angry when other people pointed out that writing het mpreg for someone who didn't ask for it might not be a great idea
-someone writing explicit incest for someone who didn't ask for it on a kinkmeme
-incest fans getting pissy when other people were upset by being surprised by father/son incest on said kinkmeme
-incest fans insisting that the only reason someone could have for not liking it was homophobia
-someone writing noncon for someone who expressly said they didn't want it in their kinkmeme prompt, and throwing a fit because they didn't consider what they had written to be noncon (the story involved one half of the couple holding the other down and fucking them while the other pleaded with them to stop).

[(Anonymous)]

There are a lot of people out there who don't seem to realize that their noncon kink is a kink.

[(Anonymous)]

In mainstream literature - teen girls. Girls that specifically turned 18 a day before. I've seen it a lot in Sci-fi.

A blackmail, kinda. A guy saves a girl, she feels like she has to sleep with him. A girl wants something from a guy, maybe money, or she's a spy looking to extract information. A girl needing protection that a marriage can offer. She's pressured by society to marry. A girl is a cat ear slave who doesn't have much choice. A nice guy plot where he saves a girl from a bad love interest. Sense and Sensibility has it. I feel like all of these is some reluctance/ power imbalance kinks.

[(Anonymous)]

Not exactly a kink, but I used to follow an author who was polyamorous and in an open relationship IRL and disingenuously acted as if this was a "normal" way of living that everyone should be open to, including when characters did it in fic. She wrote a lot of PWP porn fic of a canonly very happily married character with someone other than his wife, and someone once told her it felt OOC because he would never want to cheat on his wife. She went off about how wasn't it obvious that he isn't cheating in these fics, because obviously his wife knows about it and trusts him to have sex with other people without it meaning he loves her any less. No, none of that was obvious because the fics were pure porn and nothing of the sort was mentioned one way or the other!

[(Anonymous)]

just ran into a tickling fetish blog that claimed to be all ages, so that comes to mind immediately.

[(Anonymous)]

I have a theory some people who promote that whole "consent is sexy" thing and can't shut up about how harmful and regressive dub/noncon is, actually have a kink for consent talk and don't realize it.
(I personally find consent alright but I absolutely loathe it when characters are written to ask permission every step of the way.)

[(Anonymous)]

As the confused commenter above you, thanks for this.

[(Anonymous)]

I think the majority of the people who can't shut up about how harmful and regressive dub/noncon is actually just believe dub/noncon is harmful and regressive. HOWEVER, I do agree with you in thinking that a lot of people who go hard on the consent talk and repeated consent check-ins probably find it really hot and that's a big part of why they push so hard for it.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't see a link here. They do not promote talking, they promote stopping when one says No and also tagging. At least those that I've seen.

The consent talk happens mostly in fluffy fics with emphasized carring. It's guaranteed that character A will fall asleep and character B will carry them to bed and tuck them in these consent talk fics.

[(Anonymous)]

How about let's just say everyone who talks about anything I don't care about for longer than I want them to has a kink for that thing and doesn't realize it. I just realized I have a kink for messy rooms because my room is messy and every weekend when people ask me what I plan to do, I say "Well, I should really clean my room, but..." Thank you for opening my eyes.

[(Anonymous)]

God this reminds me of a friend's friend I met when we were weebie teenagers who kept trying to insist that everyone was into feet some way or another. Even when we were all like "haha no dude wtf" he just thought that we were saying no in a "No but yes" kind of way.

But that being said the friend group consisted of a girl into the 2008 Joker in a beyond-the-usual-Mary-Sue kind of way, me obsessed with the absolute angsty side of the Hetalia fandom and an Elfin Lied fan - so none of us were above him in any way tbh.

[(Anonymous)]

You were above him because you recognized that your own interests were your own and didn't expect everyone to share them.

Also, I have the opposite of a foot fetish. Bare feet gross me out.

[(Anonymous)]

i get how liking hetalia might be embarrassing but it's not the same as having a weird fetish and insisting everyone else is secretly into it as much as you are.

[(Anonymous)]

Strong agree. Being okay with people being into whatever they're into isn't the same as thinking there's no such thing as a time and a place. There's nothing worse than someone who crosses boundaries and pretends it's everyone else with the problem for being "judgemental".

[(Anonymous)]

This all the way. These are the type of people who routinely call everyone prudes, just because they don’t share their kinks, and might not want to hear about it unprompted.

[(Anonymous)]

A disturbing number of people don't seem to grasp the concept that their kink might be someone else's squick.