[ SECRET POST #5637 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5637 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

This is interesting to me, because I’m in my thirties and I struggle with not feeling like a “real adult,” yet I don’t find it hard to connect with adult characters in fiction.

Sometimes a story will ping my insecurity a little and will make me feel kind of shitty that I’m so much less of a “real adult” than the characters are. But it doesn’t make me not relate to the characters. Actually, Friends is a good example of a show that pings my insecurity a little bit, because even though I know full well that it’s not a very realistic depiction of adulthood for most people, it still makes me feel painfully inadequate that I’m a decade older than the characters are in S1, yet they still seem “more adult” than I am (except Rachel, but she “grows up” pretty quickly). But I still enjoyed Friends (for the most part), despite the little barbs of inadequacy it sometimes made me feel.

[(Anonymous)]

To be fair, no adult is going to have a huge apartment in New York City while sitting around doing nothing all day. It's not feasible even for the most mature of grown ups.

[(Anonymous)]

It’s more that they’re like twenty-four and they all just feel very settled into the demands of adulthood. They could just as well be a decade older, for how generally unphased they are by all the mundane responsibilities and demands of adult life.

I’m about 90% sure I have untreated ADHD (getting a consult takes eons), so maybe that’s why I have never felt settled or unphased about literally any demands or responsibilities placed on me, let alone the adult ones. Even doing the bare minimum has always felt like juggling ten objects--a feat of immense focus and endurance. At thirty-four years old, the bare minimum feels like something I’ve worked fifteen years to almost be able to manage. So to watch characters who are a decade younger just handle it all--and even when they struggle there’s this vibe like it’s a manageable kind of struggle--it kind of hurts how little I can fathom what that’s like.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in my fifties and I also struggle to feel like a "real adult." I think the dirty little secret is that many people never fully feel like one up until the day they die of old age.