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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2022-06-19 04:47 pm

[ SECRET POST #5644 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5644 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2022-06-19 10:43 pm (UTC)(link)
1. I don't get why it's "super super creepy"--sure, the crush started one-sided and as a child, but like...it evolved? And by the time the relationship happened, they were both very much adults (and very much immortal)

2. Even if the start is Really Bad, that doesn't mean the final result of the dynamic isn't healthy. Adult characters can talk about their feelings and make adult decisions.

Again, if it's not your personal cup of tea, that's fine (MXTX's stuff can be especially divisive with its tropes!), but there's nothing nefarious about people telling you it's, overall, a healthy relationship in their opinion.

(Anonymous) 2022-06-20 02:32 am (UTC)(link)
1. "I stalked them for centuries before we got together" doesn't sound creepy to you? Okay. I mean, I'm not familiar with the story so I'm just going off of what the secret said but "stalking for centuries" doesn't sound good to me.

2. I didn't say the end result couldn't be healthy. I said it was disingenuous not to at least mention the super creepy (unless you're a-okay with long term talking, I guess) beginning and the fact that there was a significant journey to reach the healthy dynamic.

And saying that it's "overall, a healthy relationship" already adds a tiny qualifier. I'm just suggesting that to some people, the stalking is worth a mention. "The relationship eventually evolves into a more healthy dynamic" is not quite the same as "the relationship has a healthy dynamic".

(Anonymous) 2022-06-20 02:41 am (UTC)(link)
AYRT I do know the story, the secret is exaggerating. Even if it wasn't, personally I would assume the "for centuries" gives a clue about the increased fantasy/drama aspect of the story.

In actuality, it wasn't stalking. It was several centuries of HC wanting to be closer to XL and making sure he was in a position to return the kindness he once received and be someone on XL's level. He wasn't even following in XL's footsteps to get there; he went in a completely different direction. It wasn't creepy, IMO. He was putting in the work to be the person he wanted to be so that someday he could maybe meet XL again.