[ SECRET POST #5678 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5678 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Non-fandom secret thread

[(Anonymous)]

I loathe the new guy at work. Loathe him. He's arrogant, refuses to admit he doesn't know something, if he bothers to lower himself to ask a question and doesn't like the answer he'll do it his way anyway and then try to blame the person who gave him the answer he didn't go with for the mistake rather than take some goddamn responsibility.

But I can't say this at work because he's black and I'm white. :/ I've been putting distance between us but I'm worried that ALSO comes off as racist. And it has nothing to do with the color of his skin and everything to do with him being a jerk who doesn't think he's got to listen to a woman who knows this job better than he does.

Re: Non-fandom secret thread

[(Anonymous)]

Just cover your own ass (document everything on your part you can, especially things that actually affect your work), but otherwise act normally.

Re: Non-fandom secret thread

[greghousesgf]

I've been in the exact same situation except the guy was Asian and not Black

Re: Non-fandom secret thread

[(Anonymous)]

You can absolutely say something. The idea that you can't call out jerks when they're POC and you're white is ridiculous. Unless white people have been behaving the same way and it doesn't bother you with them - that's worth examining. But if he's simply the first jerk in the office you can speak up.

The next time he doesn't blame you for doing something wrong even though he didn't follow your instructions you can say something. Be polite, but call the behaviour out.

Re: Non-fandom secret thread

[(Anonymous)]

lol I initially raged about my own experience, but I'm curious if you can't kind yourself through to him?
Like, honestly though, you should say it imo. He is a shit worker and should be held accountable, being black has nothing to do with it. Behaving abnormally due to his skin colour is more racist than calling him out as far as I can see. Otherwise ignoring him is probably your best bet, just like don't be rude about it.

But if you're forced to interact, and your job involves a physical product, it wouldn't be out of place to let him know every time he refuses to listen to instructions- just in a kind and quick sort of way? Just smile, let him know, and keep reminding him of the proper way to handle/process whatever it is you do. Don't linger, don't interact more than necessary, just inform, smile, wait for an acknowledgement if necessary and move on. Pretend it's the first time, every time, and keep doing it until he figures it out.
I smiled my way through some serious fury and rage when I worked with the biggest piece of shit I've ever known. It's almost reverse psychology on yourself from my experience- though the rest of the staff hated her too, so that definitely helped. But being kind was extremely cathartic for me, I can't quite explain it, it was the only reason I lasted as long as I did.