[ SECRET POST #5896 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #5896 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

If people trying to connect with you over a shared interest is so troublesome, just put a note on your profile or whatever that says "please don't ask me for recs". Problem solved.

Seriously, it's not that deep. If I like an author's fic I check out their bookmarks and blogs for reclist because we clearly vibe on a creative and/or fannish level and I trust that I'll probably vibe with their reading tastes too.

Unless you really think it's "audacity" that someone might want to read fic by someone other than you, in which case... wow.

[(Anonymous)]

it sounded more like "how dare some lowly fans ask me, the Writer they are a fan of, to rec other Writers' stories?"

...which isn't much better or anything, to be fair

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, unless people are being really pushy about it and phrasing their requests as demands, I feel like this is more of a you problem. Specifically a "develop better boundaries" problem. If you don't want to give people recs, that's totally fine, just don't do it. Either ignore the ask, or (the better option IMO) do a brief reply that's like, "Sorry, I'm really bad at rec lists, but thanks for thinking of me as someone who might rec good stuff!" If you get a lot of these requests, you could find a blogs or two that does recs for the fandom/pairing in question, and suggest those blogs to people who ask for recs. "Sorry, recs are not my strong suit, but you could try [rec blog]!" Just post that same message each time you get a recs request and pretty soon you'll get a lot fewer requests for recs, without having alienated anyone or come off as antisocial.

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty much. Or go "I write a lot of fic but don't read much so I don't really know"

I know this works because I've done this before, because it was true lol

[starfleetbrat]

If people are asking you for recs in older fandoms its because they know you are likley familiar with a lot of works as you participated in that fandom back in the day. That they are asking at all means they trust your judgement and imo its not unreasonable at all to ask someone who participated in a fandom for recs.

If you don't want to do that though, no one is forcing you to. But you have some options:

- Ignore the requests
- Put a note on your profile that says you do not give recs.
- Make a rec page somewhere (dreamwidth, neocities etc) and then link it on your profile and people can get your recs without interacting with you.

[(Anonymous)]

Wtf. People just think that you have taste similar to theirsor that you are familiar with the fandom, there is nothing deep about it.
You don't want to give recs? Ok, whatever. Don't give recs. But what in a holy self-centeredness is all this?
Also you can rec your own stuff. Just say "if you like this theme I actually have text about it blah blah" or something

[(Anonymous)]

Oh you poor thing! I can’t imagine how awful it must be that people asked you for recs. Good thing you found a way to be a total asshole to them all about it, and everyone else, too! You sure showed them, amirite or amirite?