fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #5915 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5915 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04. [SPOILERS for Antman and Wasp: Quantumania]

__________________________________________________

05. [SPOILERS for A Plague Tale]

__________________________________________________

06. [WARNING for discussion of abuse]

__________________________________________________

07. [WARNING for the standard JKR wank]

__________________________________________________

08. [WARNING for possible discussion of transphobia]

[P Total Bio-Chemical Laboratory]

__________________________________________________

09. [WARNING for possible discussion of suicide]

[The Living Tombstone]

__________________________________________________

10. [WARNING for discussion of rape]

[Greek mythology]

__________________________________________________

11. [WARNING for violence/assault]

__________________________________________________

12. [WARNING for discussion of pedophilia]

[Blue Archive]

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #846.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

I wish I had sisters who were more affectionate and more...caring/thoughtful. I feel like every person in my life only talks to me because I initiate conversation with them. For the most part, I've become rather OK with it but it still gets to me when it's my family where I feel like the only person putting in any effort is me. And I just...I don't know how to express my feelings without it being combative or passive

I have the sisters that I have, not the ones I want. I can be sad and upset about it but I also have to accept it.

I'm with you, anon. My sister are bullies - I've only just realised it. ZZThey are toxic as hell and my parents didn't protect me from them, being too narcissistic to even notice. I'm so grateful to my friends but am afraid of driving them off. Consequently I';m a drain on the local mental health services.

Why do people have to be nasty? Why, if fact, can't we all just get along? Or even just be civil to each other?

Most of my family hasn't spoken to me for a year. I've recently initiated contact because my mother went into hospital - and instead of being thanked for the heads-up, got grilled on how I knew.

Sorry I'm kinda making this all about me. But I do know what you're going through, anon. I really do, and you have my hugs if you want them. You're not alone, though it may feel like it.

AYRT

Here in solidarity with you nonny! Thanks for replying even though it's about painful family stuff.
I do not mind you venting in reply to me at all nonny. <3
It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life. Unload as much as you need.
I might not know what to say but I am reading and I'm sitting here with you. I'm sorry you lack so much support and care in your life.
My small support is here if you want it. <3

Hugs, nonny, hugs.

nayrt

Why do people have to be nasty? Why, if fact, can't we all just get along? Or even just be civil to each other?

I dunno. Those are very good questions. If I thought long and hard about it, I'd say it's a mix of ego (insecurity mostly), upbringing, miscommunication, and possibly resentment of having to adjust one's existing worldview (possibly fear of what it might mean for them personally). Well, maybe I'm speaking very generally here. Point is, it's very rarely about the other person.

You deserved better and still deserve better than the family you grew up in. I'm not saying it's easy, but everyone has a choice, and it sounds like those family members continue to choose toxicity. Your friends sound awesome. I doubt you're a "drain" on services that are meant to help people going through what you're going through and similar.

That sucks, and I feel you. I rarely ever was included in conversations with my family, and they never made any effort to keep the conversation going when I initiated. I figured I was just a boring person, because even as a kid I loved watching documentaries and I wanted to talk about them. My family is a "football/copaganda/gossip about the neighbors" family.

When I got back from college, my aunt let it slip that I made everyone feel stupid and that's why they hated talking to me. It took about ten years after that before I would try to initiate conversation about my latest fixation with anyone. I spend family gatherings in the corner surfing the net on my phone.

AYRT

Holy crap, nonny. I'm sorry your family situation is awkward and that they would resent you for having interests and then try to shame you for how they feel. That's petty and heartless. I'm sorry you feel so alone around them =( I can relate to occupying myself with my phone by looking up stuff I'm into when I see family.

For my situation I have one sister who is super self obsessed, still tries to play by the win/lose logic of managing relationships. And the other isn't good at all in initiating and carrying convos and doesn't reassure or comfort. Either way, they're so checked out I sometimes resent that they don't even think about me outside of what I'm doing for them.

Hope you're doing well with whatever interest you're taking up <3

[ SECRET POST #5915 ]

Re: Vent

Re: Vent

Re: Vent

Re: Vent

Re: Vent

Re: Vent

Re: Vent