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I can’t believe I didn’t bother checking the GC yesterday, of all days. I collect fragrances as a hobby!

As people in that thread said, sampling is very worthwhile, and if you live in the US it can even be reasonably affordable. (I live in Canada and it's generally pricier here, but still worthwhile for getting to know what you like.) Everywhere I buy samples from is Canadian, and probably not the best option for you unless you’re also Canadian, but I’m pretty sure r/fragrance has a page with a list of legit places to buy samples.

You also have the option of buying "decants" if you want, which usually means 5–10ml spray vials of a particular fragrance. Bigger than a sample but much smaller than a full bottle. These are particularly great if you are lusting after a very expensive fragrance, because buying a decant will allow you to use the fragrance enough times to know whether you really love it, or whether it was just a temporary infatuation.

Fragrantica is a good website for looking up the notes and accords of different fragrances, so what you could do is use Fragrantica to help you choose which samples you want to buy. Don’t expect to know what a fragrance is going to be like from looking at the notes, though. There are so many different ways for notes to combine that it’s very hard to know until you actually smell it. But looking at the notes and the accords can at least help you get an overall sense of the general type of fragrances it is. I believe Basenotes is another website you can use for this purpose, though I don't know Basenotes very well.

Another tip is that, when it comes to buying full bottles, it is completely unnecessary to pay retail price most of the time (with the exception of the occasional brand that you can rarely find at a discount). Fragrancebuy, Perfumeonline, and Fragrancenet are all excellent “gray market” sellers. The former two are Canadian, but they’re so good that a lot of American’s also opt to use them over other US options. They’re very reputable, but they don’t have any brick and mortar stores, which is one of the ways that they keep their prices well below standard retail. Most people who do fragrance as a hobby buy from them. Aura Fragrance often seems to have the lowest prices of all, and I’ve seen people say they’re legit also, but they don’t ship to Canada so I can’t personally vouch for them.

My fridge (a very basic Frigidaire model with no frills) that's less than five years old seems to be dying on me. I noticed a couple nights ago that heeeeey, this milk isn't as cold as it ought to be? Then my ice trays weren't freezing as quickly as they usually do? So today I did a major clean out in case it was too full (which can interfere with the cooling) but... I don't think that's the problem, really. I think my fridge is just dying on me, and a replacement (again, very basic, low frills) will run $600-700. And I'll have to coordinate time off work and let the delivery guys in and I hate it when strangers visit my house and I'll still have to clean up and throw a bunch of stuff out and then replace my food. FML.

You should check to see if it is something that can be fixed easily. I had the same issue that was fixed with a $10 part.

I would, but I don't know how. Basic troubleshooting is... well, basic. And hasn't helped. I could try getting it repaired, but the diagnosis alone is going to cost way more than $10.

I feel you. I hate having to fucking deal with mechanical stuff that breaks. I'm much more likely to just quit using it altogether, no matter how much of an insane inconvenience that is.

Ugh, that really sucks.

I'm definitely in the "try to ignore malfunctioning things as long as possible" crowd... but a malfunctioning fridge is almost impossible for me to ignore. (Full disclosure: I did once try... and gave myself awful food poisoning.)

In my experience, the whole ordeal sucks and I'm really sorry you'll have to suffer through it.

I'm sorry to hear about your fridge. I had fridge issues for a few years. From the sounds of it, there is probably something causing a flow leak/blockage one one/both of your doors that gets moisture into the ventilation systemand freezing up the vent/motor, hence seems like your fridge and freezer aren't working that good.
Getting on soapbox to say I don't know if it's intentional but these shitty designs for appliances are majority the cause of calling a mechanic to come look at it.

The moisture/freezing motor thing went on every few months for a couple years before we finally got a much more expensive fridge. Because the people I live with are oblivious and forgetful I honestly feel this fridge is a couple years away from gaining the same issue.

Pay attention to bags, food, various objects getting caught/trapped the fridge doors close. Bad sealing is how moisture enters the ventilation system.

What's on your mind?

That OW2 abandoning their PVE plans (you know, the reason they gave for killing Overwatch) is on brand for current blizzard.

It's such a shitshow over there.

I know someone who took a job with them relatively recently and Jesus Christ, I hope the pay is good, because *man* is the company soulless.

I have a friend who I know from outside of fandom but who I am pretty sure is in shipping fandom; it would be basically impossible for me to talk about it with her for various reasons not worth explaining but it's always really fun trying to work out who she ships when she gets into new media.

Money won't buy you happiness, but it'll buy you a hell of a lot of things that help make your life easier and happier, such as financial security, decent healthcare, a comfortable and safe place to live, good food to eat and the warm, comfortable feeling that you'll never have to worry about paying for things that break down.

Oh man, that last... If I won the lotto, the first thing I'd do is replace my broken stove, broken kitchen faucet, broken washer and dryer... and then start on my house before the roof falls in.

One of my uncles only made it to 47, one of my grandmothers to 53, my dad to 60 and my mom to 66, and I'm almost 40, and every time something new breaks I wonder if I'll die before my house becomes completely uninhabitable, or after. I can't afford to move, but I also can't afford to fix anything and don't have the skills to do it myself.

... I suppose if I wanted to tip the scales even more in favor of dying early, I could try to remove the asbestos ceiling or fix the faulty wiring, rotting roof, or wonky gas lines myself, heh.

I love how my nails look when they're painted perfectly but I loathe they way they look when they're chipped even a little. Are the good times worth the bad? Should I put in a ton of effort? I don't know.

my apt bldg was bought out by absolute incompetents during covid lockdown and they just raised my rent by $200 and I don't have another place to move to so I can't really do anything about it.

I went to look for fic for my newest ship, and there's only a couple and they're in a language I don't speak. :(

I've encountered that many a time. There will be one fic in English that is good, maybe two or three very poorly written ones, and a bunch that are in either Russian or Chinese.

The thing about my insecurity is that I know humans are bound to be insecure in general, we often seek for external validation...but I just get this feeling that maybe I'm doing it wrong?

Like, I see when others are feeling insecure and wanting to have "their" moment.
So I give it to them.
But there are times where I feel like I deserve to have "my" moment.
If there is someone there with me I often feel like I have to share my moment or downplay it.
And I get it can be because the person I am with is feeling insecure and they want what I have...
Why do I feel like shit when I share my moment/downplay it?
If I don't place importance on how the other person feels and just try to soak up the glory/attention, I often have to deal with someone being distant or even hostile afterwards.

Like, I think the problem is me, right? I should just stop caring so much that someone can't be fully happy for me when I have my moment and I should just deal with the after effects of having my moment while coping with a person/people who might be projecting their stuff onto mine.
I just wish it wasn't such a fucking pain in my ass to feel all these feelings.

And yeah, I'm currently not sharing my wins/proud moments too much. Mostly as a way protect myself from feeling hurt or guilty with how others might react.

PS. Reading this feels like I left out another side of the story.

I think I also feel resentment. On the other side of this is me often feeling like when others share their wins or having "their" moment, I try my best to be happy for them and celebrate them. Make it about them and don't overdo it (unless I know that's what they want lol)...
But on the flipside of that, those that I support and celebrate tend to not reciprocate. Or it feels lacking.

Again, it's me being insecure and projecting right?

I don't know how to get over these feelings.

I am genuinely happy for my friends and family when they want to celebrate.
It's on me to figure out why I feel like others' reactions to me having my moments suck ass and hurt me more than make me feel good.

Still mad about Eurovision

When I try to access F!S (or any other Dreamwidth site) on my phone, I get a 403 error.

Any idea why? Or how to solve it?

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Thanks to the Perfume anons

Late addition to yesterday's perfume thread.

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