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I hate how PMS just absolutely fucks with my already messed up brain and mood issues. Like my dad will say it's just something to deal with bc he thinks it's just a ,mood swing thing but ...it literally makes me unstable or in crazy amounts of pain

And on top of it all I don't even want to have children? Why should I deal with all this screwing with my body and mental state for something I don't even WANT ??

On top of it all I'm crazy anxious bc my when my dad is around (he's on a vacation with my sister) he'd usually be guilting me like crazy and telling me I'm going to get fired which flares up my anxiety

Edited (For context : I have bipolar type 2 along with a history of occasionally severe OCD) 2023-05-20 20:08 (UTC)

OMG THIS. Not only do we have to deal with messy bleeding, pain, and hormones messing with emotions, but then we have to pay through the nose for sanitary products which should be fucking free. Not like we CHOSE this.

Getting my IUD was the best thing. I don't have to deal with the mess anymore, I save money, there's no pain, and my PMS symptoms are practically indistinguishable from normal mood fluctuations. I have more spoons to deal with actual life now.

I wanna get one tbh from everything i hear. I'm enough of a wreck without this.

Also what's aggravating is how often my dad plays it down and jokes and acts like it's not a big deal sometimes . I feel like there are times when he doesn't try to get what an issue it causes me. He does try sometimes tho but ...idk.
With my bipolar i can sometimes get straight up suicidal for no reason then I calm down and it just flips off.

It kinda scares me .

I know it wouldn't help with the mental issues, but your dad should be forced to wear one of those cramps simulators. Men can never handle it.

Yeah.
I just don't get how he is about it. After a wife and THREE daughters!!!

nayrt but honestly, men can be really dense and lacking in empathy that way. Women are half the planet's population, they're your mothers, wives and daughters and you STILL don't understand or take women's health (and body autonomy for that matter) seriously. I swear to god if men had to deal with this bs on a monthly basis, there'd be tears and drama and it'd be a major MRA talking point, but since they don't? *big ol' sexist shrug*

Not lying.

I mean, there are plenty of women who also can't understand that stuff too because it doesn't happen to them.

I'm a woman and I honestly can't understand what people are talking about when they talk about having horrible cramps because I've never had anything worse than slight discomfort that goes away if I take a Tylenol.

Does your lack of firsthand experience with serious cramps and menstrual issues mean that you regularly dismiss other women's health concerns? Because if the answer is no, then you're not the kind of person that's being talked about here. You're not being singled out, so there's no need to #butwaitsomewomenareassholestoo the conversation about men who are idiots about women's health issues.

If the answer is yes... please do better. It doesn't take having terrible cramps yourself to grasp the fact that other people experience more pain than you, sometimes.

Everything I've read about IUD's makes me NOT want them inside my body as birth control. Why did you choose it?

AYRT

Medical reasons:

Along with all the things written above - I have always had very heavy flow with large clots, sometimes as large as my palm. Luckily, I usually only bled for four days. I'm also ace, so I didn't feel an IUD was really worth it (I don't need BIRTH control), cause I have also read about them.

A few years ago the bleeding just ... didn't stop. I bled for 6 months. The clots got larger - some days it was all clot. Obviously I knew something was wrong after day 6, and it took 2 months to get an appointment with an obgyn specialist. Long story short, they needed to do a biopsy and I was offered several treatment options if it wasn't cancer (it wasn't). It was going to take another 4 months before they had an opening to do the biopsy (I couldn't have it done in the office for medical reasons). At that point, I decided I had had enough of menstruation for a lifetime, and, of all the options I had that weren't doing nothing, an IUD was the only reversible one, so I said fuck it. If it the IUD caused problems I would just have it removed; and from the stats I read I had a decent chance of it being fine.

It took about four months after I got the IUD for my periods to really stop. About a year or so of my hormones being a little crazy (LOTS of night sweats at first) it's finally settled down and I have stopped tracking what time of the month it is. I don't know if I'm going to replace it once it's time for removal, but I do love not having to deal with any of it.

No kidding. Fellow PMS (actually PMDD) sufferer with a history of severe OCD (and a bipolar diagnosis hypothesis) here. Not once in my life have I wanted to bear children either, or had romantic relationships or sex for that matter. Still here I am, blessed with two uteruses that exist solely to fuck me up, make me ashamed of unawarely walking around my job (a public office) with a huge blood patch in my pants (this month's occurrence), force me to spend an absurd amount of money in insane amount of "nocturnal" tampons that can barely contain my daily bleeding (because dyspareunia) and handwash every panty I wear to sleep best case scenario not to mention the crippling cramps I have been taking analgesics monthly for since I was 12 (and having to restrict food for days so as to not worsen it and be able to work...) and the depression and (sometimes) anger psychosis/epilepsy/whatever it triggers on me soo yeahh. As if that wasn't bad enough, many people in my family included my mom had breast cancer so hormonal therapy is a no-go.

It's no wonder I have actual ("life is meaningless can I kill myself?" levels of) depression when I am about to have a period. Chemicals aside, all of this sounds like enough to make an average person depressed. This whole system right here exists for the sole purpose of making me SUFFER once a month. It's just "hey, the glass ceiling is bad but what if I made it even WORSE making you go crazy monthly?" Honestly, it's a curse.

I didn't have PMS but I had really terrible periods (heavy bleeding, extremely painful, lasted up to a MONTH) and I had been trying to get a hysterectomy for years. I was so thrilled when I finally got one.

Ugh, I feel you. I've had a truly crappy week at work and burst into tears twice in front of co-workers (one male, one female). I have zero idea if I'd have cried if the Red Queen hadn't wreaked havoc in my body and that truly kinda annoys me? (Next day male co-worker asked me I was okay and I did not mention that I was waiting for the painkiller to start taking my cramps away cause as nice as he is, I know the conclusion he'd have come to.)

It truly truly sucks. It hurts, it screws with the brain (I usually don't cry but I swear I feel emotions stronger when I have my period - like, don't let me find a cute dead bird on the street, I WILL tear up), it's fucking expensive (I bleed quite a lot aka I go through a box of the biggest tampons here in two periods) and like you I also don't want any children so it's basically all for nothing. :/

I'm sorry to hear about your periods.

I can definitely relate.

The only thing I have to add to this is, I recently read that lack of ovulation can lead to weaker bone density. Concerned me a bit because for a long time I was very irregular and went months at a time with no period.

Also, good that you're getting a break from your dad's nagging. (:

I have bipolar 1 and also an active menstruation cycle. I feel you.

I suffer from episodes of full blown mania once every two/three years, but I have frequent mood fluctuations and hypomanic episodes that relate to my cycle. I'm also 33 years old now and never wanted kids. FUCK THIS SHIT. Another WHAT 10+ years?! JESUS

I honestly have no idea what to do. I'm in therapy, but I've yet to start mood stabilizers because I'm hypochondriac and suffer from OCD that makes e think that if I began taking medicine then I'll probably off myself (completely irrational I know, but that's mental illness for you lol also thanks to my antivax and antimeds family members that give me paranoia).
I'm just so fucking tired. Get this uterus off my body and burn it with holy fire.

Your father is an ass, dani_phantasma. At leats my father, who has three daughters, has the decency to not dismiss my menstrual pain. I'm sorry.

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