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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2023-05-28 04:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #5987 ]


⌈ Secret Post #5987 ⌋

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Re: Men who don't fucking listen.

(Anonymous) 2023-05-29 05:59 pm (UTC)(link)
The behavior is so long established that it's socially acceptable and normalized, which might be why you're not seeing it. My dad did zero housework until my mom died and even now he relies on me and my siblings to do it for him, mostly. He'll do some stuff like washing dishes and some cooking, but he's never cleaned a bathroom his whole adult life (and I'm not sure he did it in childhood, either) and it's honestly never occurred to him that this is weird or unfair in any way. He's just used to the bathroom being cleaned by other people, who happen to be female. To him, it's not sexist, it's just the way things are.

That's just one example, this type of behavior is common as dirt. Men who leave home and don't know how to do their own laundry, vacuum, buy groceries, cook a basic meal, make their own medical appointments, etc. Fathers who have never changed a diaper, don't know their own kids' likes/dislikes/food allergies, don't do bath times or bed times, expect to come home after work and do absolutely nothing with their kids, or just as bad, they're the "fun parent" who only does fun stuff and checks out for everything else, etc. etc. Boyfriends/husbands who don't listen to their partner's preferences, expect a hot dinner but don't know how to scramble an egg, expect to be waited on hand and foot when they're sick but their wives have to bootstrap it through their day AND still have dinner waiting, love blowjobs but won't return the favor, decide that they "need a break from work" so they'll game for eight hours straight on Saturdays while their wives look after the kids without a break, etc. etc.

These dudes are a dime a dozen. If I had a dollar for every guy like this I saw/heard of, I'd be typing this from my high tech castle built on my own private island in the Bahamas while my robot maid brought me an ice cold beverage and a charcuterie plattter.