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⌈ Secret Post #5988 ⌋

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Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

So my dad came to visit today and sat down and said "I'm not well, and you need to prepare for the worst." He's having a test to confirm next week but his doctor says the most likely diagnosis is later stage throat cancer. My dad is the furthest thing from a hypochondriac and even he says that he feels like this is "it" and that he's rapidly deteriorating.

I'm super close to him and we've been through a lot together. My world feels like it's crumbling away and I don't know what to do for him. He can't manage solid food so I've ordered some meal-replacement drinks but I don't know if he'll accept them.

I just want this to un-happen. I love him so much and I don't want him to go.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

My dad just finished treatment for throat cancer. It was really rough and he ended up with a feeding tube because he couldn't swallow, but he is cancer free now and doing so much better. I hope the same happens for you and your dad. It's scary stuff amd I wish you all the best.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sorry, nonny.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[philstar22]

I'm so, so sorry, nonny.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, nonny. My heart goes out to you both.

Meal replacement drinks sound like a good idea. If he doesn't accept them straight away, he may be able to later, when he's ready.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sorry. Best wishes to your dad to beat this.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

Pay real close attention to how thick (swallowing texture) all his food is, and ask his nurses for feeding advice.

Trying hard to wish you all of the energy you both will need...

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

as someone with knowledge in oncology: yes, throat cancer is really nasty, but! depending on how late "later stage" actually is, theres still thing he can do. There might be surgery, radiation and or chemo. There are palliative treatment options that can improve quality of life. Most important is nutrition. So meal replacement drinks are a good option. You might want to accompany him to his appointment next week. Ppl usually forget half of what is said in these appointments, so having a second person there helps alot to retain info. dont be shy to write down queations to ask the nurse/doctors in advance. Making notes is also fine.
And if it is really "too late", there's still options for QoL.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[(Anonymous)]

I’m sorry sorry, anon! I agree with the anons above me that there is some things that can possibly be done to help him recover or just have QoL improvements, and that you should definitely go with him to his appointment. You have a good idea in meal replacements.

Re: Vent/advice (CW: cancer)

[randomdrops]

Not sure if you want someone to chat with, but my family just went through this - feel free to reach out to me. If you can I'd suggest going to the Drs appointments with him in the beginning. I went with my dad and it was super helpful because he didn't really remember much of what was said, and he's awful at asking questions. Idk if he really cared, but it certainly helped me feel better about the whole thing.