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(rather than start a throw away account on reddit I figured I'd go here.)

I live in a city where the average rent for a studio appt is 1k/month, for context. We (spouse + me) have a 3 bedroom house and we've rented out a room to various friends for 600/month for several years. Then we had our first current roommate move in. At the start they had a good job with a video commute, but after a few months they couldn't work. Bummer, but they had savings to live off of. Then they decided they'd sell handmade things on etsy and/or draw fan art. As they ran out of savings my spouse cut their rent to 400, then 300. This roommate applied for disability (pending) and food stamps and offered to cover 100 in rent with food (which, like, didn't feel great to me because we share a ton of food/meals but whatever times are tough). Due to the disability (which I don't mean to doubt, but the timing is pretty sus right?) they don't do any housekeeping, even cleaning up after their own dishes. A sibling helps them with rent and spending money.

Then this roommate's sibling (different one) was in a rough way, and naturally we let them stay for a few weeks. They moved into a different shared home but then lost their job and moved in with us again. Eventually this became permanent and because they were in such a rough way they paid nothing except the odd 50 a month. They'd hit up food banks and that'd be helpful because I guess their food stamps haven't gone through. They help take care of the first roommate and occasionally take out the trash or do the dishes. I'm assuming they have some kind of disability that hurts their job prospects but I don't really care to ask. (It's personal and I'm introverted.)

The problem is, we're digging into our savings to keep going. And I'm kind of sick of feeling like I'm supporting people who moved in here and gave up on supporting themselves. They need to get their collective shit together or move in with another sibling or something so we can get in roommates who can pay a reasonable rent. Or at least we can stop feeding them. They'll offer to get groceries and just *not* for a month so I don't even rely on that.

I think I need to give them a 3 month deadline to really start contributing or find another living situation, and then another 3 months for officially kicking them out. (our state laws are pretty generous for tenants, which is a good thing I just need to get rolling.) They're both much closer with my spouse so I'll need to win them over too.

So, I ask you F!s, how big of an asshole am I?

It's your house, you get to decide who lives in it. NAH.

Not an asshole at all. You've been amazingly accommodating, but as the saying goes don't set yourself in fire to keep others warm. Give them a deadline and stick with it!

NAH. It sucks, but you can't forever support people without burning out. Also half of the year is quite generous.

(we are all coming out as redditors, the horrors)

NTA. Your roommate couldn't keep up with rent and moved another person in who also couldn't pay rent?!?! I think you've let you friendship/sympathy for your roommate lead you to be incredibly generous and patient in a situation that didn't warrant it.

I'd talk to your priest about how you want to proceed feel at piece and not hurt anyone.
I'd also look into buying a dish washer.
Also how come an introvert can tolerate a stranger in their home? Weird and not worth it for 50 a month.
Post on reddit they're gonna be online soon.
Why are you asking f!s when you have rl friends and a spouse?

What a weird response.

kind of hard to talk to my spouse anon

ayrt
but will have to... stay strong

This reply is wild. And somewhat creepy vibes?

ayrt
it's the priest part, the rest is based, esp dish washer.
I'm ESL if it makes a difference.

NTA - you've been very kind and understanding so far, but neither of them are your dependents and if the situation isn't working for you to the point it's becoming unsustainable (what happens when your savings run out?) you won't be in the wrong for booting them out. Especially not with 3 months notice.

not an ass, but do lawyer up properly, in some places theres laws in place that makes kicking out people with disabilities hard.

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