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I'm willing to keep an open mind about your examples, but the two I'm familiar with don't really seem to fit, IMO. The lead in My Roommate is a Detective is annoying, but I don't really see how he's on par with the general complaints about childish female leads. Likewise in Blood of Youth, if you're talking about Wu Jie, he's clearly young, idealistic and maybe a little annoying at times, but he does not act like a little boy.

"It's like you're pointing out the very worst version of a stock character trope, insisting on making it gendered, and then declaring that it is Representative of Everything. Which is... certainly A Take."

It would definitely be "... A Take" if I'd actually said that. But I didn't. I'm guessing this is one of those topics where you're bringing some baggage from all the previous (probably contentious?) discussions you've had with other people, elsewhere on the internet and now you're a touch sensitive about any criticism of female characters in cdramas because you lump them all in the same category.

Yeah, I think I am sensitive. And honestly, I'm not the only one bringing baggage to this conversation.

But the people who jumped down my throat as soon as I pointed out Luke Skywalker is a goddamn child for two-thirds of his main story arc are not... de-escalating anything.

Nor are the people - not you, elsewhere in the thread - declaring that the only possible story arc for a girl is wifedom, when that's blatantly untrue.

Thank you for taking the time to ask for some examples.

I get it. I think it's been a controversial topic here and elsewhere. It's just... when you get to the point where you're reading stuff that you think the other person has said when they haven't said that at all, it might be time to step away from the discussion. You're still interpreting people's disagreement with your opinion like it's a personal attack, and I don't think it is.

You literally asked for examples of what I was talking about.

I gave you examples.

And then you told me I was over-sensitive.

I don't think you were making a personal attack. I still don't. But it wasn't me that narrowed this down to c-dramas in the first place. Nor was I saying that high-pitched girls with zero personality don't exist - in c-dramas or elsewhere. All I'm saying is that 'squeaky and immature' is a trait that exists in both genders, and most of said characters grow up a bit by the end of their story. And instead of actually engaging with those examples (except for MRIAD, fair enough), you turned the discussion over to 'feelings'.

And you're not wrong - I am getting cranky. But. You don't seem to be listening to what I'm saying either.

So. Sorry for coming across as defensive. This is, yeah, a sensitive subject for a lot of people.

Thank you for the examples. I didn't say that I thought you were being sensitive about the examples, though.

I specifically noted that when you claimed that I was taking "very worst version of a stock character trope, insisting on making it gendered, and then declaring that it is Representative of Everything", I hadn't actually said that at all, and that was to me, an indication that you're taking with other people, elsewhere on the internet and applying them to me, a person who hasn't expressed the opinions you're attributing to me. Baggage. I'm not doubting that you've had stressful arguments with other people, somewhere else. But I'm not them.

I do think I'm listening to what you're saying, but I don't entirely agree and I've addressed specifics already.

"I specifically noted that when you claimed that I was taking "very worst version of a stock character trope, insisting on making it gendered, and then declaring that it is Representative of Everything", I hadn't actually said that at all"

Okay. That's fair. I did read into your words there, and I'm sorry.

When you say MRIAD guy is a savant so it's okay that he's a bit flashy and pushy, or that Blood of Youth boy is young so it's okay if he's a bit ridiculous... those aren't traits that female characters lack. They're often young, and they often have some kind of talent when they enter a story. There's not a helluva lot of difference there. Uhm. Is what I'm saying making sense?

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