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I have a question and maybe others do too.

What is Oklahoma like. Has anyone around here lived there? My aunt, uncle, cousin, and his wife life there and mom and I have started talking about moving there, if I can find a job.

I'm really sick of Texas honestly. But I know nothing about Oklahoma.

If your problem with Texas is that it's too diverse and has too much economic opportunity, then Oklahoma may be for you.

Oh good god. So somehow worse than Texas? I honestly didn't think that was possible except maybe in Florida.

I was born and raised in Oklahoma. GTFO as soon as I could, though the rest of my family still lives there. If you're sick of Texas, you won't find anything much different in Oklahoma. Except maybe the power grid.

Do you have any specific questions? I've only lived in Tulsa and the surrounding suburbs, so if you want to know specifics about OKC, I can't help you there.

I don't know, honestly. I'd rather move back up north, but mom won't go for that. We've just started the conversation. She wants to be closer to family. I just want to be out of Texas. There do seem to be immigration attorney jobs there, and I can transfer my bar license there without too much trouble.

AYRT

I agree with the poster above that there is less economic opportunity than Texas, but if you can get a job then it's basically Texas' hat. There are less POC than Texas, due to being further from the border (not counting natives on the res), but just as much racism. Depending on where you live in Texas and where you'd move to in OK, it may be a bit cheaper to live in OK, but not by much. No good public transit, so even in the cities you need a car. So long as you pass as straight white christian the people will be vaguely nice. It may be just because I spent my teen years in a suburb of Tulsa and not the city proper, but the only real non-school/work social outlet was church, which was not fun for young atheist me. I've been gone long enough that I can't say if the social situation has gotten any better.

NAYRT

New Mexico's fairly nice! Pretty solidly blue, queer and trans-friendly, protects abortion rights. Rents aren't too bad except in the Santa Fe/Taos area. And I would imagine there are jobs for immigration attorneys.

I don't know where the family you want to be closer to is, but I'd pick New Mexico or Colorado over OK.

If you're trying to head East and your mom's determined to avoid "North," then it's all pretty dire until you hit Tennessee. (And if you settle in Tennessee, Choose Wisely.)

The family is in a small down but about an hour or two from Oklahoma City. I'd love to move to Colorado, but don't think my mother would agree.

a small town within that distance of OKC? NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE

some very close friends of mine have family who moved pretty much in that area range. they have turned harcore maga asshat white supremicist kill the gays ever since, said friends have actually cut contact. that area of Oklahoma is overwhelmingly christo-fascist. I know it's going to be hard talking your mom out of it but that part of Oklahoma is not in any way better than being in Texas.

it's hard these days, especially if sane family members can't move out of the scary places they are, but if that were my option I'd make any excuse, up to and including pretend job opportunities, to suggest that it's not a good idea and let's maybe go somewhere else. I support getting the fuck outta Texas but Oklahoma is basically the fire to the frying pan.

I think the idea would be we'd move to OKC because we're definitely city people. But everything here has definitely given me pause and I'm going to try to talk her into somewhere else. She really wants to be closer to family given my sister is about to move to New Jersey.

Sorry if this is a dumb question, but why can't you just move north yourself and let your mom go wherever she wants by herself?

I can't afford it. She couldn't live on her own. We need each other.

NAYRT--you could get a roommate or roommates someplace you'd actually like, and she could move in with family?

It isn't that easy to find a job in my field. A lot of it is word of mouth and knowing people. It took me years to find a full time job here as it is.

AYRT—that'd be true regardless of your living with your mom or not, I guess unless you and your mom both moved in with family, and sorry, but from what you've posted before that sounds like hell for you.

Good luck, I hope you find a living situation you actually like. And at least convince your mom to head to NM or CO or something.

I know people who've lived in Oklahoma City and not completely hated it.

Denver or KCMO seem like better bets though, from everything I've heard.

One of my cousins lived there as a kid and from the sound of it, it's got all the same racist republican bs as Texas but with worse food and/because fewer PoC.

I've never lived in Texas, but honestly, if you're looking for something different, I don't think Oklahoma is different enough. But if you just want to be closer to family, then well, it's probably pretty similar to what you're used to. We've got an insane governor who far right, and it's 100+ in the summer and might be cold to really cold in the winter (usually one really big snow/ice storm, but just regular cold after that). If you get outside of Tulsa or OKC it's just small town after small town, some smaller than others. If you like plenty of entertainment and more job opportunities, Tulsa or OKC is a better bet. We have a LOT of lakes. If you like going to the lake, come to Oklahoma. The western part of the state is flat flat flat. Towards the eastern part, you get some hills and natural woodland, with increasing hilly-ness the closer you get to Arkansas.

I live in Oklahoma. Think of all the things you hate about Texas. It is worse here.

Don't go to Oklahoma if you want it to be better than Texas. It's Texas Lite in some ways but it's not great. I ran away for a reason.

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