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⌈ Secret Post #6030 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I was in this thread, replying to someone else. Alright, though: since you engaged, we'll talk now.

> It is human nature to trust someone less when you know they lied to you. It’s a nearly universal mammalian trait.

I disagree. I am human, and it is not in my nature to treat lies like an indiscriminately evil thing. Everyone I've ever been close to uses them, and often to protect the wellbeing of people they care about. Lies are powerful, but they are not inherently abusive.

I will concede that some of the people I've met who lie about small things lie about many things. It depends what they're doing and why. But I have other ways to assess what I can expect from them that are more to the point. Lies that make a pattern that's to their benefit and my detriment - there's a danger sign. Elaborate lies, like pretending someone sent a third party a letter on their behalf when they wrote it themselves and forged the signature - that's the sort of behavior I may not forgive. But just being afraid to admit they didn't watch a movie or read a book? No. These things are not alike to me at all.

You seem concerned that the people disagreeing with your approach are telling you that you have to adopt our methods, and that's not my intent. I expect you to know better what works in your life.

It would have been nice if you hadn't replied to traumadump anon with "good for you for getting better, but no one who knows you lied about anything will ever trust you again." You don't speak for all of us, and I fully expect them to find people who will empathize, and care, and trust them regardless. It sounds like they already have. But I didn't direct my comments to you because it seemed unlikely that you would want them.