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⌈ Secret Post #6054 ⌋

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Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

Is it more comfortable if the person you're talking to also doesn't look at you, or is it purely a you thing - like you looking away and not making eye contact is enough to make you comfortable conversing.

Eye contact or generally looking at the person who is talking is a sign of respectful listening to me, but I never want my own idea respectful listening to make someone else uncomfortable you know? I know it's probably individual opinions and situational, but I just got to wondering in general.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

I guess I'm just not good with eye contact. I know it is important. But I have no internal sense of when it is enough and when it is too much. So I always feel like I'm staring at people and looking weird when I try eye contact.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

But do you care what the other person does?

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

I was always taught that when you're talking to someone, you should be at least looking at them if not making eye contact. Is that not what's taught as general etiquette anymore?

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

There are a lot of people that find it very uncomfortable. Often people with autism, for one example, find it rather unbearable and makes socializing difficult.

Background:

[(Anonymous)]

I got to wondering because I'm watching this interview with a person diagnosed with autism and antisocial personality disorder and they are looking all around and never making eye contact and the interviewer is just making normal levels of staring straight at them, and I was wondering if the interviewers focus was making the person uncomfortable or if it really didn't matter to them. They were clearly nervous, but probably just nervous about being interviewed in general.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

When I know someone well I'm not bothered by the person I'm talking to looking at me, because by then they know that I'm not good with eye contact and I no longer feel the need to 'make up' the difference.

When I first meet someone though I notice it and it partly stresses me out because I feel like I have to look at them back and it becomes this weird performance almost? It reduces over time and it stops bugging me, but at first yeah: kinda hate it but that's my issue to work around.

(I warn potential friends that I don't make eye contact a lot, I don't spring it on people, but with strangers I just have to try to adapt as much as I can).

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[greghousesgf]

I'm on the stupid fucking autism spectrum and I had to sort of train myself not to react badly to eye contact.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

I hate it when people try to make eye contact when we're talking. I get so distracted trying to avoid it, I miss what they're saying. Eye contact is so uncomfortable.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[dani_phantasma]

A person looking at me in the eyes just makes me feel like they're staring right through to my soul. It's Soo uncomfy and when my gaze locks with another person I look away on reflex. . no no no no do not want!

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

What would you prefer the other person do?

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

I don't mind if people look at me while talking but constant eye contact makes me uncomfortable. It's not their fault though; it comes from a history of abusive people getting in my face and demanding my attention. I'll try my best to look at them but locking eyes won't happen much in my case.

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[(Anonymous)]

Purely me thing. I don't care what other person does as long as they don't demand eye contact.
I hate then people verbally notice that I avoid most of the eye contact. One guy commented something along the lines "oh you don't tend to look at people when talking". CONGRATULATIONS YOU NOTICED. What do you want from ME?

Re: Question for people who don't like eye contact

[tabaqui]

I don't care if someone makes eye contact with me or not. I tend not to make eye contact because I know that some cultures don't like it and it's uncomfortable for some, so I tend to look just past them, or away from them at something, but I make sure I speak *at* them and listen.

So - unless all you're doing is staring at your phone and mumbling unintelligibly, I don't care where you look when we talk.

Books!

[(Anonymous)]

I don't check in daily, but I think it's been a minute since we talked books. What's everyone reading? Last good book you finished?

I just finished Killers of a Certain Age by Deanna Raybourn and was pleasantly surprised. Nothing fancy, but an enjoyable read about older lady assassins not taking shit laying down. Lots of satisfying competence and friendship.

Re: Books!

[kaijinscendre]

I've been trying to read Fantasticland by Mike Bockoven. Not feeling it yet but I'm not far in. It better be worth me putting off my Slewfoot checkout on libby!

Re: Books!

[(Anonymous)]

Currently reading Malignant by Anita Waller and Atlantis Gold by Rick Chesler. I don't have much left of Malignant so I'm going to try to finish it tonight if I can. It's good but I'm nervous about the ending (one of the MCs has cancer and while I hope they survive, I'm not sure they're going to--not a spoiler; it's mentioned in the synopsis, and, well, the title, really). Atlantis Gold is decent but sort of generic. One of these days I'm going to find something in this genre that's really good, I swear.

Once I finish Malignant I'm going to start something else, but I keep going back and forth between romance and mystery.

The last really good book I read was All the Sinners Bleed by S.A. Cosby, which was amazing.

Re: Books!

[philstar22]

I've been too mentally exhausted to read. I have a huge stack of fantasy books I want to read and I just haven't had the bandwidth. I even tried to do a LOTR reread, couldn't even manage that. I want to be able to read, damn it.

Re: Books!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in that phase right now. I go through where I'll read a book a day or so and then suddenly nope, no more attention span or mental energy for reading. Forcing it never helps, I just have to wait it out until I get hooked again. It sucks, because I do want to read, it's just not going to happen when my brain is like this.

Re: Books!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm halfway through Trinity by Louisa Hall. It's a novel about Robert Oppenheimer, as seen through the eyes of 7 different OCs. So if you're interested in the topic and would appreciate the perspectives of female characters with rich, complex inner lives (Christopher Nolan blinks in confusion), it's worth checking out.

Question

[(Anonymous)]

ASK THEM!

Re: Question

[kaijinscendre]

Buying my sister some new polishes for her birthday. For red she only likes, "reds that are glossy ass 'hoe red'". Which of these gives that vibe?

https://www.cirquecolors.com/products/toadstool
https://www.cirquecolors.com/products/devil-wears-cirque-colors
https://www.cirquecolors.com/products/famous-original

DA Inquisition

[(Anonymous)]

Does it hold up? I've never played but thinking about trying it out. I don't mind older games/graphics if the gameplay holds up.

I am totally asking because I just read a fic and while I enjoyed the fic I kind of fell in love with the world building. Not sure how much of that is straight from the game or just author imagination though.

what's the last thing that made you feel accomplished?

[(Anonymous)]

I'll start: I was able to hang up all my laundry tonight!