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⌈ Secret Post #6101 ⌋

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Does anyone have advice or know where I can get advice about ethical Financial Domination?

You mean the whole "conning poor simps out of their money without them getting anything in return" schtick? Yeah, not sure there is an ethical way to do it.

No, more along the lines of people who -actually- cut off people who have proven to be putting themselves into financial distress in order to appease them. I'm asking because I'm pretty sure that's what's happening with one of my paypigs; I've been returning/rejecting his gifts but now I'm wondering if there was a way for me to direct him towards getting help without violating boundaries. I'm fairly new at Findomming and I had reached out to a few more experienced Dommes but they've laughed me out of the park, lol.

(I forgot to add that he had been escalating because he thinks I'm playing a game with him. I'm not. I'm genuinely uncomfortable.)

Do you all have a safe word, or a some type of signal that you are not in the dom-sub dynamic? If you don't I would get one. You could also name the feeling when you're not in the roleplay; this is supposed to be a mutually beneficial dynamic, and you are no longer getting such a benefit because of the potential distress he's under.

if he reacts badly to any of those, it's time to cut him off, not try to convince him he's got a problem, because he no longer sees you are an equal, just someone to fulfill his fantasy. that's bad for you.

Thank you for your response.

We do -not- have a safe word and that is definitely a rookie, but devastating mistake on my part. I had been under the impression from the other finDommes that those are only used between actual -partners- who have an emotional intimacy alongside the dynamic. I see now that I was not educated properly and I've done both myself and my subs a disservice. I really should have known better seeing that I've used safe words with non-Findom related activities, this should have been no different.

I'm going to just cut him off and put him on a blacklist. I'm pretty sure he's not reasonable and can be talked with. I'll also check in with my other sub and renegotiate our contract and terms to include a safe word.

Thank you so much, this baby Dom is very appreciative of your time and advice.

it's completely understandable from the advice you've been getting. i think you could also find general bdsm communities and books and see which types of advice you could adjust for your personal use. good luck anon.

Sure wish I could do FinDomming safely online.

It's a bit of an initial money sink, but if you have a decent enough computer, you can do such things through Second Life. Making a decent avatar is the hardest part, but if you ask around there are a lot of communities who are more than willing to assist you.

The exchange rate is a bit low, but it's an excellent starting platform to learn how things work and manage things a bit more safely.

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