[ SECRET POST #6104 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6104 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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03. [SPOILERS for Free Guy]




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04. [SPOILERS for the Barbie movie]




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05. [WARNING for discussion of antisemitism]




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Comments

[ariakas]

The feeling of "clearly doesn't matter to them who is on the other end" is what really gets me when this happens. I mean, it's great if you've established that talking at one another about your interests while the other one waits until it's their turn to talk is just how your friendship works (like some anons above), but in my experience, most people talk to other people in order to have a conversation, not a one-sided info dump.

Especially when the other party(ies) have made it clear that they're not interested, have politely attempted to change the subject multiple times (or even succeeded, but the Talker hijacks the topic as soon as possible to change it back to their special interest), and the Talker just keeps... going. Do they not like these other people or enjoy their company? Do they not think of them as friends and want them to have a good time and also hear what they have to say about things?

You're turning into one of those old people everyone ducks out to avoid so they won't get trapped in a droning hour-long conversation about nothing, and you're in your prime, goddamn.

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP

There's a level of give and take in every relationship. I think when I find myself talking to someone and if we can't show genuine interest in each other - including each other's hobbies - one of us will eventually be the one who contributes a lot less and either the friendship fades or eventually we can talk to each other about other things together.

If the friendship feels highly transactional, especially as the friend who isn't into The Thing, it can be painful to know if the friendship is worth salvaging or not.

I guess in terms of someone you would consider a friend, if you don't like interacting with your friend outside of the common interest/fandom, maybe it's better to re-evaluate what this friendship really means to you (as a general statement, not me trying to impart advice onto the person I replied to).