[ SECRET POST #6195 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6195 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Vent Thread

[(Anonymous)]

For me, a good friend would never pressure others to do something that person doesn't want to do.

I understand encouraging a friend when they doubt themselves, but even that has a limit. IMO if a friend says straight out they don't want to do it, I will accept that, no reason needed, unless they share because they want to.

IMO You telling your friend you didn't want to do something isn't a moment for her to start moralizing it.


To me, it comes across like she doesn't want to own up to her shitty behavior so instead she is trying to flip it around to blame you, even with flimsy excuses, and you have to consider her feelings first.

Also, maybe it's from my own damage with crappy friends/family members, but I don't like when people demand me to share secrets/vulnerable subjects or experiences with them.

And it's even more messed up when they tell me those things are burdensome to them.
Again IMO, that sort of behavior is manipulative. They set you up to feel like crap.

If you don't share with them, there's something wrong with you for not trusting them (how weird that they demand we give our trust to them when it is something they must EARN on OUR terms, not theirs; just like how I know I must earn other people's trust - not just expect people to trust me juat because).

If you DO share...if you talk too much about it, they say you're being self centered or they'll give you advice you didn't ask for or they tell you your life/problems are too burdensome for them to really engage with you on.

Tl;dr: your friend's behavior sounds bad and if they can't own up to hurting your feelings and disrespecting your thoughts and feelings...this friend may not be someone you want to keep interacting with, especially as friends.