[ SECRET POST #6332 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6332 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

I wish the efforts to normalize voicing regret about having children would pick up speed.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

DA
Just normalizing vocalizing regret about anything and everything would help society out, I think. Regret is so natural and intrinsic to living but it often feels like a topic that is shunned.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

What do you suppose that would do to the kids whose parents regret having them?

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

You mean the ones who already suspect their parents regret them, or the ones who have somehow blissfully failed to pick up on it?

Because it would vary from person to person. If the parent was a complete asshole, maybe the kid would see this as an opportunity to set themselves free from a toxic situation. If the parent regretted having the kid but still did their best to raise the kid and make the kid feel wanted, it might sting but maybe something could be salvaged. Or not. In any case, maybe the kid would rethink whether or not they wanted kids themselves and go into the situation better prepared.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

Da

I think it would be extremely hurtful to almost all of them

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

We can tell when our parents regret us, you know.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

I extremely do not think it is the case that every child who is regretted by their parents knows this

I am sorry if you do

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

I think that if the parent(s) handle this situation with time and care the kids can take it reasonably well. We're already starting to hear from these kids, at least a little bit. So far, it's been not as damaging as expected as long as it's clear what the parent actually regrets.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/feb/11/breaking-taboo-parents-who-regret-having-children

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

If it stops being taboo, nobody's going to bother with time and care. The fact that it needs time and care is part of why it's taboo.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

I'd say at this stage it definitely needs time and care. That said, I also think it's possible that this necessity would only be temporary. After a while, there's a good chance it won't matter as much.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

No. You say that shit to your friend, to your therapist, to your spouse. You do not say it anywhere your regretted child could hear you.

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

This

Re: What are your non fandom secrets.

[(Anonymous)]

I wish the exact opposite. Life is hard enough without children having extra trauma heaped on them. The parents are the ones that need help, putting it off on the kids is vile.