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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2024-05-21 05:33 pm

[ SECRET POST #6346 ]


⌈ Secret Post #6346 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2024-05-21 10:16 pm (UTC)(link)
"The same bad thing happened to these other people and they came out okay" leaves a really bad taste in my mouth. People are different and have different responses to things, and that goes for coping with abuse too. Saying someone shouldn't be allowed to heal because they weren't as perfect as other people at dealing with abuse, a thing that can really fuck with your head, is one step away from saying they deserved to be abused.

(Anonymous) 2024-05-21 10:22 pm (UTC)(link)
And those different responses are not an excuse. But that is what many MHA fans want to use it as. "Oh, he was abused by his hero dad so it isn't his fault he's killed 30+ people."

(Anonymous) 2024-05-21 11:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree, that's a dumb justification. But it sounds like OP is opposed to any kind of redemption arc at all? Or am I reading that right?

(Anonymous) 2024-05-21 11:38 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I really hate the "good survivor/bad survivor" rhetoric.

(Anonymous) 2024-05-22 08:11 am (UTC)(link)
Agreed, anon. And I'm glad someone already put words to this, because I was about to try but what you said was very clear and to the point.

Years ago, my brother was hit by a motorcycle as a pedestrian and walked away from the accident without a scratch on him (true story, thank goodness). That's no reason to tell other people who were not so lucky to suck it up. We understand this immediately and intuitively when we're dealing with physically dangerous situations and obvious injuries. But we're used to hearing people assert the opposite about emotional and mental trauma. Which really is as irresponsible as claiming that just because you heard of one guy who didn't need medical treatment, anyone who does is really just making it up.